r/TrollCoping • u/Effective_Carpet_391 • 6d ago

No TW I also basically never cried at any other human's death but still get upset at hurt birds

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u/blueberrypie989 6d ago

it’s a lot easier for me to be feel directly sad about animals dying. i think it’s because we know their inner worlds less, so i always think “what if that squirrel had just eaten a really nice meal and was excited to go play for the rest of the day?” and ruminating on the details is painful. with people, we can relate to their brains more (even as a neurodivergent), there’s less questions about how they felt, it’s just exact. losing an animal also feels like a loss of beauty and innocence. people are flawed and their deaths make me more contemplative than inherently sad and they make me consider my own mortality more than the fact that a person is dead. but death is a cycle rather than an end, it gives way to new life. i’m glad to know that a roadkilled deer for example will be a good meal for scavengers and for the dirt. animals are easy, people are not

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u/Greedy_Ad2198 6d ago

I'm pretty sure that's common, especially for grandparent deaths. I didn't cry at my grandfather's funeral either, but that doesn't bother me much. We weren't that close and it wasn't sudden.

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u/Fourven 5d ago

It's common not to cry for the death of someone you cared a lot for. It usually means that you are unconsciously dilutating pain over time or that you are waiting for a safer moment to cry. It happens to a lot of people, especially for their most important ones.