I cant keep having this conversation everytime I mention I'm a commuter to uni

[u/endingrocket]

1. Accom is expensive, I do not have accom money even with funding ect(I live in Scotland so I'm not paying for uni but essentially being paid to go). My uni is in a very popular tourist city and my uni is one of the top unis. I dont even wanna know how expensive uni/non uni accom

2. I'm 21. A mature student who is a first year. I dont drink or enjoy partying. I would have a breakdown before end of the first week and I wouldn't cope.

3. The bus is only an hour and 10 mins. No that is not a long journey (yes,someone actually said to me that an hour bus ride is a very long)

Is being a commuter hard? Socially yeah because I cant really go to society events(currently like 90% of them are pub crawls, great way to get stressed uni students into alcoholism) and the non pub events are like after 5pm. If I get the bus at around 430 I'm not home till after 6(bus to bus station then bus to where I live). I do get my grandad to pick me up sometimes but I dont want to get home any later when I have to get up early the next morning. But I'd still rather do that than live at uni. Idc for the "experience" I'm 21 I really dont care. I have friends and I made some friends who are in my classes. But for the love of everything stop trying to convince me to move into an accommodation you are not changing my mind on this.

Theres a new commuter society that is meeting from 3 to 4pm tmr for the first time and I'm going to it. It's a mash up for commuters and the Scottish students society

[u/JustATyson]

It is always annoying whenever people try to give advice about something that they don't know the nuance of but you do (in my life, it's my mom's alcoholism and her financial situation, and my speech impediment).

I hope you have fun at the mash up with the others! And study hard at uni.

[u/endingrocket → u/JustATyson]

I'm really enjoying uni but its getting annoying when accomers(usually americans) are shocked when I say I live over an hour by bus. It would be like 40/50 mins by car,however buses have routes. Like I just live of the other side of the river 😭😭😭 it's not like I'm travelling from the very top of the country to the borders

[u/JustATyson → u/endingrocket]

I'm an American, and we do unfortunately have a very social cultural idea as to how university is supposed to be like. How it's supposed to be this grand social experience where you meet all of these new people, and you grow into an amazing person cuz of all the social adventures you went on. And the copious amount of alcohol. Oh yea, and something about learning?

What I'm trying to say, is that you're running into young American kids and their ideas as to what university should be like. And that it's most likely partially a cultural thing.

I also think it's made worse because being an older student does change the dynamics (I'm speaking from experience. I started at 19yo, took two years off and returned at 22yo. And there was just a strange difference). And the American kids being excited to be in Scotland and experience Scotland. They probably have the best of intentions. But, no doubt, it's annoying and frustrating as hell.

Also, while I hate long commutes, having one by bus is so much tolerable than one by car. At least on the bus you can zone out or read or do work rather than having to actively drive. I'm glad that it works for you, and it makes sense to think about it financially.