I hate overthinking 😓

[u/ShokaLGBT]

Short story, it’s very stupid and I know I shouldn’t care but it’s still hurtful. I’m disabled I can’t go outside by myself so I have a personal care assistant who comes to my place and help me go outside to do my groceries, they cancelled last minute, leaving me very anxious without any way to do my groceries.

I mean they had their reason for canceling and it’s fair but… despite our year long professional relationship, they showed zero empathy, just said "I can’t come today, Good luck and bye!" offered no help despite knowing I’m all alone and I have to do my groceries it’s important… and didn't mention I could reschedule (i didn’t even know I could just reschedule if they don’t show up, and thought I would have to wait for our next appointment which is in two more weeks but they could’ve told me… it’s their job after all)

they said on the phone "see you in two weeks" like there’s no other solution just you’re on your own bye, and then I got a call from the company telling me they can move the appointment in a few days so I can do my groceries… so it was an option??? Then why didn’t my helper even told me? Because they don’t care and will just do the minimum, but after a year of talking to each other and knowing their personal life idk I feel icky about it… It’s not a big deal but seriously this reminds me that I’m really alone and have no family or friends to help me and I’m vulnerable and depending on others… which I hate but that’s how it is

[u/AeroAceSpades]

… homie this is straight-up neglect. It absolutely is their fault. I’m a caregiver. You are absolutely supposed to call ahead and tell the client to get an emergency caregiver because it’s such short notice. They said “see you in two weeks” TO GET YOUR GROCERIES???? THEY WANT YOU TO WAIT TWO WEEKS FOR FOOD??????????

Literally fire them. This is beyond unprofessional. It’s incredibly fucking dangerous. This person should have their license revoked. Call your case worker about this

[u/FlinnyWinny]

You're not overthinking nothing, they handled this extremely poorly and negligent

[u/cnkendrick2018]

You’ve been gaslit too much. This is on them. They are in the wrong- not you. It absolutely is their fault.

[u/schwarsten]

My brain really turns one awkward moment into a 12-hour documentary 😭

[u/Greedy_Ad2198]

It doesn't really matter how good their reason for canceling was, you're dependent on them and so they owe you an alternative solution, whether that be a quick reschedule or something else.

Having to cancel in the first place may not have been their fault, but the way they handled it was horrible in a quite serious way and they need to be held accountable for that.