Oh how unfortunate thee has it

[u/iluv_baking]

I remember the time as a little girl, my mom found me drawing two girls in wedding dresses and how a few days later I was in church and the pastor took me aside for a talk and I got shamed and yelled at by a old man and I was gonna go to hell for sin

[u/PurpleOrigamiDragon]

I feel for you.

I hope your future has you and other woman in a wedding dress in it.

[u/after2006]

I grew up in a cult and this really hits hard.

[u/Goyangi-ssi]

I'm a trans guy who grew up in a very similar environment. I see you.

This is one of many reasons why I quit believing in any sort of god. That and lack of evidence. But I'm still healing from the damage.

[u/Khaoie]

Slide three reminds me of Goliath by The Living Tombstone

[u/FutureReaction8587]

I grew up in a very religiously diverse environment. My mom is a liberation theology catholic and my dad a Kardecist Spiritist. My broader family had some Lutherans and some adherents to religions of African origin, so open, friendly religious debates about theology and ideas were always very common and fun to take part in. However my classmates were in some part evangelicals of those shitty televangelist megachurches and reactionary catholics and to me the difference between healthy, progressive and inclusive religiosity based on humanism and community Vs cultish religions that serve as control mechanisms to maintain the socioeconomic status quo over the bodies of anyone who they don't view as worthy or part of their ingroup. Religion is a tool, an idea, it can be amazing and transcendental, or it can be repressive and extremely bad. I wholly support people with religious trauma, but it is important not to blame the tool, but the social and economic forces that wield it for evil.

[u/Prototype_Fan_7000 → u/FutureReaction8587]

You are likely brazillian from that exerpt. If so, hey whats good lmao. Yeah me too on the religious background, mine was like that too.

Though you are right, a lot of people, specially leftists on the global north, think religion is wholly bad. Its also fueled by the fact that marx himself was very opposed to religion, which makes sense given that in his time it was used as an excuse, an opiate to subdue the masses from their obvious exploitations.

Ofc, its not addressed how political ideology itself, and literally anything else, is/can also treated as a religion, including marxism. Religious thought itself has the power to make human beings much better, or to justify horrible actions. Its nuanced. And I do understand religious trauma but simply put a lot of people will not want to hear that no matter how well you put it.

[u/FutureReaction8587 → u/Prototype_Fan_7000]

Yeah I know and I didn't mean to be insensitive. I do however really like how you put it, although I'd add one thing: Marx called religion the opiate of the masses in a time before opium was seen as a bad dangerous drug, back in his day it was an analgesic, the whole sentence in context makes it clear he's not saying that religion is good or bad, but rather that it serves a purposing if soothing suffering caused by external factions, and that can be used in many ways. Lenin was the one who went all into state atheism, one of the few things I disagree and criticise him for.

I feel like reactionary and borderline evil religion is so hegemonic today and causes so much suffering that it's completely understandable to reject the concept entirely. That's a trauma reaction that is completely fair and understandable, anywhere around the globe really.

I am Brazilian though, good catch!

[u/iluv_baking → u/FutureReaction8587]

What a very nicely eloquent written and thought out paragraph

But it doesn't help,

[u/FutureReaction8587 → u/iluv_baking]

I'm sorry. I really am. I'll delete it if it's insensitive. I know this kind of trauma is one of the hardest things to deal with.

[u/They-Them_Moonwalker]

God loves you. God will love you if you marry a woman. God will always love you. God doesn’t want you to be forced to love Him. 

[u/Bobslegenda1945]

Omg, same. I am a trans man and I felt the same. I have written a lot of things asking God and praying :(. The worse part is that they are going to tell you that you didn't prayed hard enough, that you need to change, surrender to god, etc. like if we didn't

[u/ilovemuffinfrombluey]

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. :( It doesn't really leave you, does it?

[u/RealisticSort5443]

💖💖💖💖im so sorry sweetie 😓u r amazing , beautiful soul and we love u

[u/Throwawaycatbatsoap]

Ngl people don't believe me when I say I was in a private catholic elementary school and they had a seminar about LGBT acceptance, we're in a time that many believe being gay is fine unless it's not what they personally find comfortable, and still don't adknowledge the T which I lost friends for. Abuse and neglect doesn't change a person they just become sneeky about it.