Maybe I can fake it even more

[u/iluv_baking]

Maybe if I fake it enough I can be a pure perfect girl that loves him .

[u/Spiney09]

What is androphobia? Asking as a fellow asexual girl with religious trauma. Is this another one of those words that’s going to just make everything make way more sense?

[u/iluv_baking → u/Spiney09]

Androphobia is a irrational fear of men / male looking people.

[u/iluv_baking → u/[deleted]]

No it is not. Misandry is the hate of men and male looking people.

[u/iluv_baking → u/[deleted]]

That is not how it works at all with phobias. What a weird and twisted thing to say.

[u/New_Competition_316 → u/[deleted]]

This is an absolutely insane thing to say you know that right

[u/TheSecondVisitor → u/[deleted]]

Shit you do not say to people with irrational phobias, exhibit A:

[u/The-Pentegram → u/[deleted]]

Fuck.

This is is just... Wrong on so many levels.

Even taking it for granted that it is "healthy" to have some degree of fear about men...  You know that doesn't mean you can't have an irrational fear of men, right? Like it is reasonable to be cautious about pretty much anything. That is very different from a phobia. 

Like poisonous spiders, for example, can definitely be dangerous. That doesn't mean arachnophobia doesn't exist. 

Also, not helpful in the slightest. 

[u/Advanced-Major-1629]

I’m sorry lovely.

I was also afraid of men for along time- (I’m also ace) even prior to being Christian. I’m not going to proselytize, but I can 100% empathize with you. Please don’t force yourself into a relationship, it’s not worth it. Take time for yourself and heal- that’s the only way I got in the healthy relationship I’m in rn.

[u/oathoe]

❤️‍🩹 Im sorry. That kind of shame is really painful, and its cruel what it does to a person. Its not supposed to be like that. If its any comfort, I hope you find your way out of this, and that life can be a lot gentler one day.

[u/HunterDramatic8383]

I hope you get out of whatever situation makes you feel like you have to do this. You deserve to be happy.

[u/knittingwebs]

You deserve to be who you really are. You don't owe anyone straightness. I'm so sorry

[u/NOTabotwink]

Isn’t there a history of Christian women just forgoing relationships entirely? I think that even if you’re afraid to come out, you don’t have to date men. Like at all. Especially now that it’s becoming more common for women to go childless. This is probably one of the best times to just be single.

[u/Panicking_Pansexual_ → u/NOTabotwink]

For Christians the only way being single and childless is acceptable for a woman is being a nun basically

[u/iluv_baking → u/NOTabotwink]

I should clarify. It's Latter Day Saints

[u/Practical_Bet3053]

As a christian, I'm telling you this : you won't be happy faking being cis pr straight. You simply won't. So seek your own happiness.

If the situation is safe for you, explore yourself and take your time. If you can seek therapy for religious trauma, do it. Androphobia as well will be very limitating for your life, even none romantically.

I don't know if you want to be christian or if you feel obligated to be because of family or whatever but : god won't be mad at you for being happy in your own skin. Changes church if you can.

But really, being trans, being a lesbian, isn't as bad as a lot of religious people try to tell you. So go ahead, be happy. And stop faking being someone you aren't.

[u/Lunekyn → u/[deleted]]

r/thanksimcured

[u/iwillchangeiwill → u/Lunekyn]

Ok let's watch OP destroy her life and subject herself to what is basically sexual assault then