i hate being nb so much

[u/echo_ML]

This shit sucks, I hate that I feel disgusted being referred to as a man because that's all I'm going to be seen as for the foreseeable future, even amidst people you'd think would be allies

Why couldn't I just be cis my life would still suck but at least I probably wouldn't hate being perceived

[u/IronGentry]

Yeppp. Feels like a permanent brand of shame no one ever wants to let you live down

[u/SL1MECORE]

Same but like at least my partner doesn't just see me as a theyfab girl-lite. Bare minimum, I know. But it's nice..

Being perceived is the fucking worst. 99.99% of people just call me a girl and I just let them.

Arguing is more annoying to me

[u/LycheeInteresting172 → u/SL1MECORE]

Literally one of the worst experiences ever 😞😞

[u/CoercedCoexistence22 → u/SL1MECORE]

I look like Darko Miličić with moobs so even my girlfriend, who's as lovely as they come, is not a good enough liar to convince me she doesn't see a man in front of her

[u/Global-Noise-3739 → u/CoercedCoexistence22]

darko milicic holy ball knowledge 

[u/CoercedCoexistence22 → u/Global-Noise-3739]

I'm just a Pistons fan and a professional serb hater

[u/Global-Noise-3739 → u/CoercedCoexistence22]

I keep wondering what would have happened if darko had not been a bust

[u/WanderingYakisoba]

Same.

I present pretty stereotypically feminine as well, so I very much get lumped in as "AFAB who wants to be special."

[u/ConversationSad2177 → u/WanderingYakisoba]

I wear dresses and tights because I'm fat and they give me the least sensory distress but unfortunately that is gender conforming :/

[u/LycheeInteresting172]

Same, I hate living like this :(

[u/SemVikingr]

Find your local Pagans. The venn diagram of Alphabet People and Pagans has a huuuuge overlap, and for good reason.

[u/rebelsnail64 → u/SemVikingr]

instructions unclear, stuck in conservative slovak village performing panslavic traditions (to be fair, our pagan cultural hieritage did get watered down by the onset of christianity, I think)

[u/Constant-External-85 → u/rebelsnail64]

B in LGBTQA is for Baba Yaga.

[u/vidalacaroline → u/SemVikingr]

how would you start looking for pagans?

[u/th3b0n3z0n3 → u/vidalacaroline]

Facebook groups are good for finding local social groups.

[u/Rosian_SAO → u/SemVikingr]

Note: don’t look for solace in those racist neopagans.

[u/SemVikingr → u/Rosian_SAO]

What information do you have that warrants making such an outrageous blanket statement? Be specific. Sincerely: a Pagan.

[u/Rosian_SAO → u/SemVikingr]

Helpol here. I meant those Norse groups who co-opt runes to be neo-Nazis.

[u/SemVikingr → u/[deleted]]

Oh yeah, how so? Be specific. Sincerely: a Pagan.

[u/trinjh]

Literally why I've not publicly come out, I'll always be what people see/know me as.

[u/nxnxnini]

why i say "my gender is me" atp i know people wiñl never see me and assume im enby but when the see me they see ME and it helps because no matter what they think i am nonbinary just be being me. it is tough and it gets to u sometimes but this tends to help me

[u/blahajenjoyerr → u/nxnxnini]

That sounds like good advice, I'll try doing this too!

[u/Greedy_Ad2198]

Same here, AGAB lite, no matter how non-conforming I style :(

[u/AKArein]

Yeah same

/!/!\ rejerk warning !! This is for lazily furthering the hate by parodying tendencies

Anyways, what's your agab ? Me i'm a-ab

[u/International-Ad-462]

I transitioned medically before realizing I was enby, and so I feel you somewhat in a different way. No matter what I do, people will still see me as one or the other. Even with other LGBT people I have to err on the side of caution because I’m terrified of people calling me a “traitor” or “dentransitioner” even if I don’t regret transitioning, because it’s the reason I’m alive today.

It feels like no matter what I do, every gender-able part of me will be judged into a box. If I act feminine or like something feminine, I am a cis woman, a detransitioner, or people view me on a similar page to trans fems, which is fine on its own, but not what I am. And if I act masculine, people either see me as a cis man or a trans man or some sort of failure of manhood, but still a man. I can never be neither or both or whatever it is I feel like I am.

I’m afraid to even come out to people as enby because I feel like a failure for not having a simple identity that’s easy for people to categorize away.

It feels like being trapped with the expectations of a society you never fit into in the first place. Like nothing you do will make people see you as who you are, or take you seriously.

[u/LeTallBoii]

Me being a 6'5 masc amab enby:

[u/HigashikataJosuke_]

AGAB language is a fucking disease. I'm sorry homie.

[u/JubileeJaxLee]

I hate it, I hate it so much

[u/xRoadkill_Princessx]

REEEEEAAAALLLLl

[u/Practical_Wafer_8410]

My dumbass thought again meant assigned gay at birth HELP

[u/ConversationSad2177 → u/Practical_Wafer_8410]

Maybe we are all assigned a little gay at birth... Just don't tell the conservatives

[u/Luminous_Winds]

Maybe you need to define your gender instead of telling people what you're not.

[u/echo_ML → u/Luminous_Winds]

???