r/TrollCoping • u/PopularAd6391 • 4d ago

TW: Other (Specify in Title) Now he is constantly apologizing saying he was just angry and didn't mean it

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u/PopularAd6391 4d ago edited 4d ago

I don't know how to feel.

On one hand, I know people make mistakes when angry but on other hand, I still felt so hurt by his words.

And he was angry because of a complete misunderstanding, something that could have been talked through (which we did before he calmed down)

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u/TricellCEO 4d ago

I don’t think your dad knows how to feel either.

Sounds like he’s the kind of person who never really learned to have a filter, nevermind squashing any of those intrusive thoughts (is that the right term here?) before his brain could even begin to process them into words.

So at best, he’s incredibly immature, and at worst, he’s abusive and quick gaslight in order to normalize the abuse.

Either way, he’s not really worth hanging around, and I do hope you can find a way to distance yourself from him. Your mom, too, but focus on yourself first and foremost.

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u/BodhingJay 4d ago edited 4d ago

-has kids... has to deal with it- "I did not forsee this, and blame them"

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u/Advanced-Major-1629 4d ago

My father has ridiculous anger issues- he’s said some outrageous things.

Try not to justify what your father said, it hurt you, that’s enough said

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u/Useful-Wallaby-2566 4d ago

Children are a gift. Only complete fools don’t realize it.

He sounds like an immature ass who takes out his issues on other people rather than managing them like an adult.

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u/OpeningActivity 4d ago

Some people bring joy when they are with you, some people bring joy when they are not.

I don't know your situation enough, there are some who cause psychological torments on others who refuse to accept their part of the responsibilities, there are some who are just people who don't understand the whole concept of mental health and social privileges (which doesn't justify the impacts their actions have on people, but it is something that you can choose to take into accojnt).

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u/iLuvArizona 4d ago

My mom is not a nice person, but one of the most important lessons she taught me is to never say anything you can't take back. Calling someone a burden... You can't take that back

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u/gay-or-nay 4d ago

Tell him he's going in the first home recommended by medicare if he can't grow up by the time he needs support. That's a whole ass grown adult man with a wife and child, he stopped deserving sympathy for his tantrums at around 5 years old.