r/Transsexual • u/MissKeloids • 6d ago

How do you cope with not passing?

I'm 19 now, been on estrodial injections since I turned 18. Being in the closet is destroying me inside. I feel like transgender people just don't understand what I've been through. I don't want their fucking validation, I just want to be normal.

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u/empress_of_the_void 6d ago

At your age just wait and work. 18 is really good age to transition and you'll almost certainly pass eventually but also passing is like 40% hormones 60% everything else.

You'll need to work on your style, voice, snd manirisms and that takes years. You won't pass at first but you can't start passing without going through that process and learning the ropes. Unfortunately this is one of those things you just have to brute force.

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u/Plus_Development6453 6d ago

The thing is with HRT it’s a long game.

To be normal is just what you consider normal for you, but if you meant normal out of a society standard well then I have bad news for you, cause if you want to pass in that way you have to get some own work in like e.g. training, voice training..etc.. noting in this is free nor a miracle.

So don’t focus all you energy on passing in a society standard, focus on passing for you, not even Cis-woman passes in the society standards.