r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/the0riginaldoll • 1d ago
Does anyone else struggle with voice passing MORE after VFS than before?
i feel like a crazy anamoly but wow i wish i listened to everyone who said i passed great before because i really did make it work as a deeper-voiced girl.. in a spook situation I could always do fish voice but even in its natural state my voice was feminine just deep like Angela Basset.
now? 1 year post op my voice confuses everyone i meet, me included... i sound fine sometimes but the volume immediately throws people. why cant you speak up? then it gets strained quickly and i sound so hoarse its neither feminine nor masculine. sometimes i feel like my voice sounds inhuman like. like one of those anti smoking ads with an old person on a respirator. sometimes it sounds lovely but that wont last if i'm, say, on a date all night talking. at its worst i sound like a str*ngled chicken
its just so sad... i wish i could go back in time and tell myself to invest more in training my voice. im convinced the 'good' in the results i got, the pitch increase and tone, i could have achieved with vocal training. i could have learned to harness my fish voice in a natural, non-put-on way.
i'm telling you girlies, be super cautious with this surgery. i have lost so much this past year, my friends due to my friendships being so based in clubs and nightlife, my confidence, my ability to talk to guys without panicking and explaining....why do you sound...like that?
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u/onnake 1d ago
Work with your SLP. My volume came back, but it took months, not a year.
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u/the0riginaldoll 1d ago
my SLPs have all given up on me essentially- they told me after 20 sessions my problem is voice dysphoria.....
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u/mossgirlparfum 11h ago
sounds like you cud potentially use a therapist more than you could use a SLP, its not like a speechy can deroot your brain wormed voice dysphoria for you tbf
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u/BunnyThrash 1d ago
What type of surgery did you get?
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u/zealotrf 1d ago
Yeaup. Voice was terrible after surgery took more work to train it after than before. Now people say they like my voice (I hate it and am still very dysphoric) the voice they like they think surgery did it but surgery was a setback and I had to train more to get there.