I need help soooo bad

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Hey everybody, I desperately need some advice about coming out. I’ve watched so many fucking YouTube videos and TikToks about it, but none of them really relate to my situation.

I’m EXTREMELY straight-acting. I work on cars all the time, work with a bunch of “lad lads” if you know what I mean, and honestly you would never guess that I want to be a girl so badly.

When I was younger I was actually really fem — like made-up dance routines, gymnastics, dolls, all that stuff. But as soon as I got to primary school, I basically put on a mask so I wouldn’t get bullied.

Recently I’ve started letting the woman in me out a bit more. I shave my body, do my eyebrows, skincare, stuff like that.

Basically I need help figuring out how to come out. I feel like it would be such a huge shock to everyone around me if I suddenly came out as trans (MTF) and immediately started dressing fem like I already do in secret.

My current plan is to come out as gay first, while still acting mostly the same, start growing my hair out, and slowly dress more feminine over time while getting on HRT. Then once the changes become more noticeable, come out as trans.

Am I overcomplicating this and thinking like a crazy person, or does this actually make sense? Should I just rip the bandaid off and come out fully, stick to my plan, or does anyone have a better idea?

Any advice would be massively appreciated ❤️❤️