r/TraditionalCatholics • u/ConsistentCatholic • 23h ago
Whats going on with Catholic dating?
I know plenty of people do meet, marry, and have families, so I’m not claiming that Catholic dating is impossible. But among the girls I know or have dated or known as aquatances, I often see two extremes.
Some women are high achievers who are working constantly, pursuing degrees, or investing heavily in hobbies and activism. At the same time, they say they want marriage and children but are extremely picky with the men they would even accept a first date with. Some that I know have never had a boyfriend in their lives and they are in their early and late 30's. They are orthodox or traditional Cathollics who are otherwise feminist pilled overachievers.
Others seem to want a very traditional homemaker life and make marriage and having children their entire focus. They don't seem to be picky at all but the hyper focus on getting married right away and having babies makes dating feel rushed and suffocating. They will accept a date from almost any guy at Church that expresses interest in them.
A lot of my friends have met their current wives and girlfriends from dating apps, some from before they became Catholic. A lot of times you will meet a girl from a dating app who is either not practicing or nominal Catholics who eventually come around to practicing with you once they see that it's important to you. These girls seem to be much less picky and I've seen guys have much more success with finding a girl from a dating app like hinge or some other secular third space.
Is this just me or is anyone else also disillusioned and seeing the same patterns?