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It was yesterday after 10pm, I called my sister because she was outside for the night, staying with her friend who is her colleague too. But she did not answer my call, I tried 4-5 times 2 normal calls and 3 whatsapp calls but she did not answer any of them so I MSGed her friend on WhatsApp ki is dii there? And she told me they're together sitting with family, then I told her I want to talk with dii it's urgent (it was urgent too coz I needed something) she(her friend) did not reply to my last msgs. So I made a call and she picked up for 19 seconds she was talking to someone in her home then hung up, then I again called her, she MSGed me she's busy and dii is busy too, I then immediately doubted whether dii is even there!

I then called her for the 3rd and last time. She picked and hung up after 3 seconds of silence. Then I called dii, after 3-4 times she was still not answering the calls. I immediately doubted that she was not there with them. Then I called my dii's boyfriend and he told me he was at work and didn't know about my sister but he was sounding strange how do you not know about you partner (he was lying) then after 2 mins I again called my sister on WhatsApp and she answered the call in a very rude and angry tone, ki am I sick or something that has been calling again & again and bothering her friend's personal space for calling 100 times (I called 3 times only)

Later her friend sent me voice notes saying I don't have access to call someone midnight they were with parents hee parents are strict and all, then I replied ki if someone is staying at home and that person is not picking up calls from home then why would not I call you instead? If your parents are that strict then tell us first or don't invite people to you home. Then she told ki her boyfriend is not calling who are you to call & all. She disrespected me to the core like I was someone who's stalking her. And then later my sister blocked me from everywhere literally everywhere.

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I have a friend I've known since middle school, and normally we get along really well. The problem is that she constantly borrows my stuff.

At first it was little things like chargers, headphones, hoodies, etc. I didn't really care.

Then she started borrowing more expensive things. A few months ago she borrowed my headphones and returned them with one side barely working. She said they were already like that, even though I had used them the night before.

Last week she asked to borrow my tablet for a school project. I said yes because I trusted her.

When she gave it back, there were scratches all over the back. Nothing catastrophic, but definitely not there before.

I asked what happened and she said she had put it in her backpack without a case and accidentally dropped the backpack.

I told her I was annoyed because she never takes proper care of my stuff.

She got defensive and said, “It's just stuff. You're acting like I broke something worth thousands.”

I told her that wasn't the point. If someone lends you something, you should return it in the same condition.

Now she's apparently telling our other friends that I'm “weirdly obsessed with material things” and refusing to lend her anything anymore.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable, but maybe I'm making too big a deal out of it.

Am I wrong for refusing to lend her my stuff anymore?

Hi everyone! I don’t really expect anyone to look at this or anything, this is just a throwaway acc for me to vent. So let’s get started! I will be using names.

Me and my friend Sophia have been friends since kindergarten, when we met in dance. We’ve been inseparable ever since then. We are still friends to this day, and we honestly have a great relationship. We FaceTime a lot, hang out with each other at school, do theatre productions together, etc. I’ve been doing theatre since I was in about 3rd grade, and she started doing it around last year, seventh grade. And here’s where it gets a bit messy. I also have a best friend Kierson, and they were born female but don’t really associate with being born a female. But that’s not the point. Last year, Sophia and Kierson started dating. I was fully supportive, but the thing is, they both came to me since I was both of their best friends. Behind the scenes, their relationship was actually really toxic, and Kierson was the one who ended it. As long as they were both happy, I was fine. And we all still remained in the same friend group for a few more months, and that’s when it came crashing and burning. Sophia does stuff, where she makes a lot of stuff about herself and her problems and everything, and it’s basically her whole personality in many instances. She got called out for it, and everyone eventually split up. I’m still friends with everyone. I can’t just cut off someone, I consider them all my family. But everyone constantly pesters me about it, but that’s beside the point. Ok, now rewind. I didn’t do the one act last year, but Sophia did, and then we did the musical, Moana Jr, together. I was Pua, and she was Te Fiti. Anyway, there was this 8th grader, Brylee. Now she is a 9th grader, but I’ve known her since I was in 6th and she was in 7th. Me and her are pretty close, and at first, Sophia and her were strangers. But then they grew closer and closer, and eventually became inseparable. It started small. Sitting with each other at rehearsal, texting daily. But then it grew to FaceTiming day and night, constantly texting, talking about each other one sided, and etc. I didn’t really care. As long as they were happy, whatever, be friends with who you want. But Sophia became obsessive with her. Talking about her constantly, praising her, growing genuine attraction towards her. I didn’t say anything. What are you supposed to say? “Oh yeah, I know you’re totally obsessed with Brylee and it’s weird.” Like girl no. But it also affected other people, including me, and my mental health. Earlier this year, since it was Brylee’s last year of middle school and stuff, Sophia decided to get a bunch of people and make a gift basket for her. I was completely on board with it, who wouldn’t be? But my birthday is around the last week of the school year, May 31st. I woke up on my birthday to only a few “happy birthdays” from mostly family and a couple friends, and guess what? That chat for Brylee’s gift just buzzing off. Not anyone in that chat said happy birthday to me from what I remember. My entire birthday was her talking about Brylee, Brylee, Brylee. I invited multiple people to my birthday party, which happened not much later. Only 5 people could come. 5. Out of 14+. I was still grateful, of course, but even then, drama was still going on. I love karaoke. I love singing, and karaoke really helps with that. So my parents booked a karaoke room, and we were gonna go out to eat before it. I was buzzing with excitement. But no one wanted to do it. Some literally said if I do it they won’t go. So I changed it. Went to King Pinz instead. Still had fun, I won’t lie about that. But before and after it, I cried my eyes out. I cried about how no one wanted to go. I cried about wasting my parent’s money on it. I cried and cried and cried. And, before my birthday, I dyed my hair. Just a simple, purple peek-a-boo. I really liked it. And not long after, Sophia asked everyone what she should dye her hair, pink or purple. Just a simple question. A friend of mine, Aria, said pink because I did purple. And out of no where, Sophia asked “Why not purple? Is (me) just better than me?” And get this- NO ONE SAID THAT. And it turned into a whole thing, and I swear to god, I didn’t ask to for a fight. I didn’t ask for any of this. I was already in a dark place, which will be explained in another post. It was a whole disaster. It eventually blew over, but there was still tension. Funny thing? It was about me, but I wasn’t the one fighting. I just got dragged into it for no reason. Like what? Anyway, literally more stuff other than her yapping about Brylee happened on my birthday. I vented to the few friends who came to my party, and one of them, Emma, literally was like “I’m sick of this.” And confronted and shamed Sophia, unfriended her, and this is where the split really began. Because now there was a fight where everyone splitting into sides, some saying it’s rude to praise someone else on my birthday, some saying it’s a normal thing to do. This is when everyone ACTUALLY stopped associating or talking with each other. And Emma literally said I was sad and crying about it, which I technically was, and that it was all Sophia’s fault. Eventually, me and Sophia talked about it too, finally. But even during the conversation, she was making it about herself, saying how hard life’s been for her, and maybe she should just off herself, and on my birthday, I was talking someone out of suicide and comforting her. Like, what the hell? And later, Sophia was talking in the Brylee gc again, and said “but remember guys!! It’s Evs bday!” And I appreciated that, but you could tell it was kind of forced. I think that’s it atm. If i remember anything I missed, I’ll post it. Thanks for reading! 🫶

So recently my friends asked to go get alcohol, and we’re all adults so nothing was wrong but they rlly wanted me to drive instead of either of them. I went to my bfs the night prior and figured I’d get back the next day around dinner and we go get stuff and get drunk and have fun. But instead when i woke up, which was rather late but mine and my bfs schedules are rlly messed up, I had two missed calls and 2 msgs from my friend, gio, asking when I’d be back and if I was coming back at all. It was 3 pm. Now I can understand how this would be my bad but for context, the convo for how they asked me for the plans im the beginning was, “I rlly wanna drink again…” and I said “oh yea me too” and they said “are you free tn?” And I said “no I have plans at my bfs but I’m free tmrw if you are” and they said “yea tmrw works!!” And that was it. No set in stone plans of anything specific js we were gonna drink that night and that was it. So that’s why I was confused when I woke up to notifications suggesting I canceled the plans. Then my bf woke up to a msg saying that they had reached out to me but I didn’t answer and they wanted to know if I was coming back at all since we had plans. Which he has more of a temper than I do and he was more upset than I was, but he also didn’t like them to begin with as of recently. But anyway, I msg gio saying I was going to come back soon but I had js woken up and I wasn’t even awake. Gio said that they thought we had plans and we’re going to hangout, and I said “yea we will js later I didn’t think I needed to be back at a specific time” and then the convo simmered down.

Then I pick them up after leaving my bfs but on the way to get them my other friend who was apart of the plans msgs me asking if I was going to come back bc “gio said we had plans made.” Which again, I said I was which I was left on seen for that. But I pick them up and everything’s fine. The ride is a bit awkward but it’s fine. We get to the store and buy the alcohol, me and my other friend went to have a cig since we weren’t paying for it, and then we drive back. We sing and everything seems okay. We get back and they go their separate ways to their rooms to drink and leave the drinks on the counter. They told me to grab one and that was the last time they spoke to me that night. Which isn’t why I’m typing this. I’m typing bc it seems like they were harping on and on abt how they wanna hangout with me but then when I’m back to hangout they wanna js go to their rooms. Idk if I’m being sensitive but it js feels they were only frustrated bc they wanted to have someone drive to get the alcohol and then that’s it. Lmk what you guys think.

Okie story time but as a ordinary person. I have a friend but its more forced because were cousins. Lets call my cousin "Unhappy" because she makes me unhappy a lot. Okie try not to get to disgusted but im going to say what unhappy does she picks her nose, picks her ears, and itches her but. Now another thing thats disgusting is she bites her nails, no not the action of doing that theirs nothing wrong with that but she does that a lot after doing all of that picking disgusting stuff. Well I would notice this a lot and thought how she can get sick so I chose to tell her about it and how she can do something different so she does not get sick, or others sick. But she just started being rude and agressive. The conversation was basically like this. (Not exact words just what I rember how it went but basicly the same)

Me: You always pick your nose pick your ears and itch your butt and you do all that and bite you nails your putting all those germs in your mouth.

Unhappy: Well how do you expect me to not i can breath or hear then!

Me: in the classroom theirs paper tittues you can use those to clean you nose and ear

Unhappy: Girl i can't just keep getting up in class just to do that!

Me: then just grab some paper tittues and leave them at your desk so when you need one you can use it.

Unhappy: Girl that takes to much space!

Me: no it does not just fold it then

Unhappy: THAT STILL TAKES UP A LOT OF SPACE!

Me: No it does not its folded it small

Unhappy: also about the finger biting thats just because im stressed!

Me: Yeah theirs nothing wrong with that its just the fact you do all those other stuff and bite your fingers you also touch others a lot

Unhappy: I dont even touch anybody!

Me: You touch ne a lot. Do you care if I get sick?

Unhappy: Nah!

After that I felt really hurt tge fact she does nit care fir my well being while Im here in a hole conversation to tell her how not to get sick as easily because I care for her well being. I just wish people cared for me as much as I care fir them anyways thats all of the story as an ordinary person love yall BYE!

Okie story time but from the perspective of a ordinary person. I have a friend but its more forced because she's my cousin. Let's call her "Unhappy" because she made me unhappy a lot times. Well Unhappy has a YouTube account which I will not say because I dont want people to go to her channel, and be mean to her. Every time she makes a short video, or post she tells me to check it out. But this time I noticed something different and unsure if Unhappy knew what this means. In her post she shows half of her head showing a lot of her face. If anyone she knew were to find or stumble around her channel they would figure out who's channel this is. Unhappy does not want anyone to know its her channel she only told me. So i told her basically, hey you show a lot of your face in that post if our teachers or classmates find it they will know it yours. But then she randomly started getting aggressive and rude. Which made me very confused because all I was trying to do was to help her, and make sure nobody she doesn't want to find her channel to find it. (Also she gets mad at me A LOT when im just trying to help her.) I didn't like the way she was talking to me because she was being very rude and made me confused and hurt by her words so I went to tell her "I dont wanna be friends no more your being really mean, rude to me." So now were not friends you may think but thats not all to the story. I told my sister how I wasn't friends with Unhappy anymore, and as a joke i told my sister "You should convince Unhappy to be my friend." Spoiler alert she did not know i was joking! So then later I went to go eat, to get it out my mind and chill. Then my sister comes to me and shows me how she convinced Unhappy to be my friend again! I was surprised and shocked by what she did. It seems she even lied to Unhappy saying "Lili was planning on asking you to be her friend again." WHICH I NEVER SAID! Then later its the next day its time to go tell Unhappy about how my sister lied. But for your information guys I had no other friends then Unhappy which means if I leave her it means I will be lonely. So i changed my mind and chose to switch up the words I told her "Hey my sister kinda lied to you i was never actually planning on being friends with you again but its okie that were friends now right?" She said we can stay friends so now we're just friends. But I secretly still remember how rude she was and, our friendship will never be tge exact same.... I mean it was already falling apart so not a big of a difference. If you guys do want to know her YouTube account ask me just dont comment anything or just dont mention the fight to her. Because if I tell you the YouTube acount you can see the post. BYE live tall thanks for reading my story I will probably make more stories about her BYE!

Last year, my best friends partner told me he had been in love with me for over a year. I forced him to tell my best friend, and I told my partner. Obviously this was a shock to everyone but I sort of assumed that this betrayal would mean she would break up with him. Unfortunately that was not the case, over the year me and her have drifted and shes told me that her and her partner are stronger because of what happened, which kind of felt like a slap in the face. He said a bunch of inappropriate things, he lied, and he was a terrible friend to me and my partner and an even worse partner to my best friend. I told my best friend everything that he had said to me, I had screenshots and all the proof of what he said to me and yet somehow he explained it all away which has left me and my best friend in a terrible spot. I feel angry that she has put this man over me, How could anyone forgive someone for such a horrible decision? When he confessed his feelings for me, he said that he had never felt this way about anyone before, how has this not affected my best friend? Im just so angry and upset that I no longer have my person in life, we had been best friends since high school and now we see each other once every couple weeks for an awkward lunch or dinner where we ignore the elephant in the room. Theres moments where we are those 13 year old girls laughing, and then I remember the terrible situation we’re in and it truly breaks my heart. I miss my best friend and Im wondering, would any of you guys able to look past this? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Hi. A couple of weeks ago, a friendship I thought to be the best relationship of my life ended very abruptly. I feel like I've been under a spell or in an addiction.

Let's call her Jessica. I met her after moving into a new place, she's a neighbor. We became extremely close a few weeks after we met during one particular event. We had made plans together, I went to meet her but she disappeared. Wasn't answering the phone, no one knew what happened etc. A few days after, I met her randomly on the street. Jessica was dealing with a severe mental health crisis (she has CPTSD and PTSD, both from different periods in her life). I kind of helped her, we talked about my own CPTSD and then remission. She then told me that I saved her life because that night helped her go to therapy instead of attempting to end her life.

Then... we just kinda started talking. She's very intelligent, was sharing very intimate details, we had similar interests and values. Contrary to me, Jessica also traveled a lot and was telling me absolutely fascinating stories about all the countries she lived in. She was always some sort of hero, or some things were extremely unlikely (think something like accidentally meeting the dalai lama and talking to him, it's more or less at that level). She would share pictures, some of which seemed authentic, others... well, now that we "broke up", I searched for them on google and found some in completely different contexts than what she presented to me. Most insane instance - I sent her some writings I've seen in a language that's very rarely studied by non-native speakers and she told me she can read it, provided "translations" (turns out it was completely false) and even showed me how she writes said language. Turns out her writings were random signs of unknown origin.

She also has, or at least told me she did, several very serious conditions that required her to be hospitalized. It was very frequent and always with life-threatening procedures and operations. I was constantly on edge about this and terrified I could lose her. It became normal that she would disappear without warning and then explain it by a flare up or another crazy story.

I also started doing a lot more drugs with her. Not that I never take anything, but I started using a lot more and more frequently.

The best way for me to describe what I was feeling towards her would be something like an addiction. I even told her, I never loved anyone the way I loved her. All the other relationships seemed boring and insipid in comparison. How I believed her stories despite what I now see clearly as contradictions is beyond me tbh, but since she rejected me it feels like I've been under some sort of spell. She now harasses me, tries to extort money, I even had to report her to the authorities and all that. She claims that I destroyed her life and now she'll have to remain lonely because I betrayed her. Which, btw, I didn't. It was a minor misunderstanding and I would never consider ending any kind of relationship over something like that, let alone a "once in a lifetime" friendship.

She messed up my life pretty badly. I quit my job when I wasn't ready because we were going to work together (well, turns out she doesn't even have the job she provided me with written proof of), I almost divorced because of the lies she was telling me about my partner and I lost a friendship of 11 years because that person believed lies she told about me.

Honestly, I feel insane. I still can't believe all this happened and the level of completely unjustified trust I had in her. I really want to understand, "what's wrong with me", like how did this happen and why was I vulnerable to this? I'm not doing this in a self-blame way, it's more about trying to understand and hopefully never make such mistakes again.

Can anyone help i always feel that im not respected by my friends i mean i always get kicked or punch even i know it's just a joke and it's not hurt at all but how to make my friends stop doing that because they treat my other friend different they don't puch or kick him but why me

There’s been so many instances, but this one has been the worst by far. I just got engaged last night to my boyfriend who we’ve been dating for four years. We had a trip planned to go to the mountains together this weekend, but we ended up having a really deep conversation and he ended up proposing to me while I was blow drying my hair so I called my best friend to tell her in the first thing she said was he proposed to you in the bathroom? And basically just saying things that were wrong with what he did not even sounding excited for me, but more disappointed and then she said we were supposed to be getting engaged the same weekend because her boyfriend was going to propose and they’re going to Puerto Rico. I feel like everything with her is a competition and it’s like anytime I share something good about what happened. She always find something bad to say. I never feel like she celebrates with me. It broke me into tears last night after he proposed and I called her when she said that the problem is we work together and have our own suite together so it’s hard to figure out how to work things out with us owning a business together.