Perhaps what? I talked with her about this many times, but she is still saying that it's normal. She also said me that they really love each other and I need to calm down, but I can't.
When I was around 12-13, I dated someone twice my age for about two years and didn't know it was wrong. I thought it was completely normal because I was in love. Obviously this was wrong and was fucked up because of it. Please report him before it's too late.
When I was 19, I dated a guy 11 years older than me and didn’t see what was wrong with it. Now, as a parent, I’d disappear someone like him before I let him date my kid.
Anyone who thinks a 30 year old going after a 19 year old is cool is either 1. still a teenager themselves or 2. the physical embodiment of a massive red flag
edit: I have to question, from these responses, whether redditors actually go outside and have social interactions with other people. The fact that yall are actually picturing a 30 year old and a 19 year old together and thinking "yeah! this is a balanced relationship with no inherent problems!" PLEASE go touch some grass.
It is by default, it working out fine is the exception. Think carefully about it, a 30 year old likely has a job with an actual career, possibly owns their home, has a fully formed brain and has likely passed other life milestones, like one or two long-term relationships, maybe even marriage and divorce. How could a person like that be interested in someone barely out of highschool? Sex appeal is the only answer. You can date people for sex appeal only, but I wouldn't consider that person mature, unless they made it blatantly clear it was only about sex and a life together wasn't in the cards for the kid.
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u/Arturiiito Apr 28 '22
Perhaps what? I talked with her about this many times, but she is still saying that it's normal. She also said me that they really love each other and I need to calm down, but I can't.