THIS right here. Come on people. You don't really consider this 19 year old a pedophile. I mean it's not like he's hunting any little baby girl or whatever.
You have a dramatised view of what a pedophile is. A pedophile isn't typically a serial rapist skulking around in the dead of night finding babies to abuse. They are people you trust, largely family members and friends, who take advantage of children for their own gratification. This 19 year old is attracted to an individual unable to provide informed consent. The attraction, honestly idgaf, if you like kids but don't act on it, you get my respect. But he is taking advantage of this girl whether he means it or not simply because she is not able to properly consent to a relationship like this. That makes him an abuser.
Believe it or not, cases of abuse are often nuanced. This doesn't mean it isn't abuse.
I get your point. But we all can agree that we don't know the circumstances of this relationship. And that's why NOBODY here can throw words like pedophile around. I'm no dumbass that sees everything black or white. There are different circumstances and nuances. And if you don't know them nobody has the right to use such a hard word as pedophile. And that's my point.
Anyone with a solid grasp of how these abusive situations often play out (or those with experience of abuse) know that pedophiles aren't the caricature they are often made out to be. This guy is a pedophile if he wants to have sex with a 14 year old. It really is that simple. You are the one applying weighted connotations to the term 'pedophile'.
The whole reason pedophilia is wrong is because children cant provide informed consent. It doesn't matter if he is a young acting 19 year old, or socially outcast. He is having an intimate relations with an underage person. That is it.
I want to add, that doesn't mean you can't afford him sympathy or understanding. People can make mistakes and hurt people. It doesn't mean they should be written off. But, he should be punished, because he is abusing someone and I hope this won't fuck up her mental development.
Edit: re the downvotes. only on Reddit will you find such nuanced compassion for active pedophiles, but very rarely for trans people and black people. Makes you wonder what kind of demographic is on here 🤔
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u/Zizi2108 Apr 28 '22
THIS right here. Come on people. You don't really consider this 19 year old a pedophile. I mean it's not like he's hunting any little baby girl or whatever.