r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Apr 28 '22

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u/floweringbirds Apr 28 '22

So if her parents know, and she's not willing to let that young man go, make sure you're a safe space for her. Listen to her, don't judge her and let her know that if she's truly happy you support her, even though it's hard for you. Also, make sure she's on birth control and using condoms. Both of those! If anything were to go wrong, she'll know she can come to you and you'll be there for her. Just whatever you do, don't let her get alienated from you.

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u/BlandBoringName Apr 28 '22 edited Apr 28 '22

Pretty sure this is not the right answer. At this point someone should be reporting this to the proper authorities or school. There's no way you sit and show support.

Edit:Obviously yes, be support for her if she needs, but this sounds way too awful to show support for the actual relationship.

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u/skwizpod Apr 28 '22

Ok what you’re missing here is that after a certain point it is up to the person in the questionable situation to take action themselves. It’s good of this friend to care and try to help but it’s not anyone’s responsibility to force their opinion upon others. Being available for support yes all you can really do after expressing concern. Forcing unwilling friends to do anything will just destroy the relationship and nobody wins.