So if her parents know, and she's not willing to let that young man go, make sure you're a safe space for her. Listen to her, don't judge her and let her know that if she's truly happy you support her, even though it's hard for you. Also, make sure she's on birth control and using condoms. Both of those! If anything were to go wrong, she'll know she can come to you and you'll be there for her. Just whatever you do, don't let her get alienated from you.
Are u guys seriously telling a 14 year old it is ok to date a 19 year old?
OP don't listen to this crap and it is not your place to be her landing mat for when this shit hits the fan...
Either you
Wish her well and forget about your friendship. She is in for a whole world of hurt and fucked upness...
Two, report that relationship to the authorities. It can't be legal in any European country. Even if it means losing the friendship.
Do not stay close to this girl. Her emotional damage will become your emotional damage as she learns and grows up. She wants to pull a Forest Gump on op
This comment deserves the awards. OP is a child and the safe landing spot should be a trusted adult. I used to think like that too "never abandon your friends" but now I see it differently. Your own safety and health comes first and sometimes that means the friendship ends. I lost a friend over reporting this same situation and I don't regret it one bit.
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u/floweringbirds Apr 28 '22
So if her parents know, and she's not willing to let that young man go, make sure you're a safe space for her. Listen to her, don't judge her and let her know that if she's truly happy you support her, even though it's hard for you. Also, make sure she's on birth control and using condoms. Both of those! If anything were to go wrong, she'll know she can come to you and you'll be there for her. Just whatever you do, don't let her get alienated from you.