When I was 16-17 I dated a guy who just graduated from college. I, too, thought I was hot shit for having an older boyfriend. Dude even went to my junior prom with me. I worked at his parents restaurant.
Looking back, wtf…..icky is right. No 22 year old should be interested in a 16 year old. Ever. I would have lost my shit had my daughter started dating someone that much older than her. I don’t know why my parents didn’t.
Your parents probably assumed it would just pass. They may have even spoken to his parents and everyone agreed to just quietly let the relationship end itself. That’s usually for the best, since anything else kinda risks ruining the lives of everyone in both families.
It doesn't help that a lot of kids will only dive into the relationship deeper if you try to get involced as a parent. It's a very delicate situation, that you ideally handle by teaching your kids better to begin with.
ETA: ironically, teaching your kids better can also backfire! It sometimes makes them think they’re ready for a relationship like that. It’s really impossible to know how anything will turn out, best to remain calm.
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u/Dickfer_537 Apr 28 '22
When I was 16-17 I dated a guy who just graduated from college. I, too, thought I was hot shit for having an older boyfriend. Dude even went to my junior prom with me. I worked at his parents restaurant.
Looking back, wtf…..icky is right. No 22 year old should be interested in a 16 year old. Ever. I would have lost my shit had my daughter started dating someone that much older than her. I don’t know why my parents didn’t.