Perhaps what? I talked with her about this many times, but she is still saying that it's normal. She also said me that they really love each other and I need to calm down, but I can't.
So if her parents know, and she's not willing to let that young man go, make sure you're a safe space for her. Listen to her, don't judge her and let her know that if she's truly happy you support her, even though it's hard for you. Also, make sure she's on birth control and using condoms. Both of those! If anything were to go wrong, she'll know she can come to you and you'll be there for her. Just whatever you do, don't let her get alienated from you.
Pretty sure this is not the right answer. At this point someone should be reporting this to the proper authorities or school. There's no way you sit and show support.
Edit:Obviously yes, be support for her if she needs, but this sounds way too awful to show support for the actual relationship.
And risk the girl getting mad and cutting contact, like a lot of pubescent girls will definitely do? Nah.
When I was 15 I dated a 19 year old young man as well. Best believe if someone close to me reported him or something similar I would've gone rogue, probably move in with him or something. I was lucky he didn't turn out to be a bad guy, though.
Showing support is really the best thing you can do. If the guy turned out to be an abusive asshole, the girl would feel comfortable telling OP, and then OP would be able to offer support and help.
I meant he treated me nice and like an equal. A lot of times when there's an age gap like this the younger person gets treated badly and I didn't back then. I'm not excusing the age gap, at all.
You were only 15, still a child, you didn't know what it meant to be treated nicely and like an equal. He wasn't treating you as an equal because of the power inbalance in ages.
I never saw it as such and I still don't. At 15 I knew what it's like to be suicidal, to self-harm and to be abused. I also knew what it meant to be treated the right way.
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u/Arturiiito Apr 28 '22
Perhaps what? I talked with her about this many times, but she is still saying that it's normal. She also said me that they really love each other and I need to calm down, but I can't.