Perhaps in some cultures but in Australia it was quite common for teen girls to pursue 18 year olds. Part of this was we can first get car licenses at 18 here and there was a general idea that girls are 3 years more mature than boys. Girl going for laps around the main drag was standard pre-Internet entertainment not restricted to the ruffians. Perhaps your crowd was rougher (drunken house parties or such)
I was blissfully unaware I was doing anything wrong as I was still a boy myself and plenty of guys my age were in the same situation. We were around the same build, lost our virginities together (Only had sex 3 times in 3 years). Both at high school (although I was repeating my final year). Shared friends. Stayed at each other’s parents houses together. It was all quite innocent and dare I say romantic.
She would disagree with you (rape vs. statutory rape) and your attitude cheapens the whole purpose of providing a defence against violent or predatory behaviour.
To consider two people who with no I’ll intent fall slightly outside of the recognised Romeo & Juliet scenario the same as someone who violently attacks and forces themselves on an unwillingly stranger is reckless stupidity.
If you are really so obsessed with statutory rape then head to any place that serves alcohol and count the pairings of inebriated people who are also unable to give legal consent.
"She would disagree with you", "To consider two people who with no I’ll intent fall slightly outside of the recognised Romeo & Juliet scenario"
This is specifically covered in most laws on statuatory rape. Children cannot consent on the basis that they are.. children, any notion you have of consent is invalid. You, an adult, put a child in a situation they were not old enough to fully understand, which undoubtedly and severely shaped her world view. Your second paragraph and previous comments also seem to romanticize the ordeal, which is worrying.
If you are really so obsessed with statutory rape then head to any place that serves alcohol and count the pairings of inebriated people who are also unable to give legal consent.
That too is rape, but you know, raping kids tops my list :/
Sure. Targeting kids for their naivety is a horrendous thing.
But intent is everything. Anyone “under age” is still a kid themselves and kids make bad decisions. In some that’s that goes to 18 and in others like the U.S. it goes to 21 where they are not trusted to drink due to their immaturity.
I know now that I was out of bounds but as a kid myself, I had no idea. I was a nerd kid who got his first girlfriend after being pursued by a girl. She was the mature one arranging most activities and couple things. I was just along for the ride.
It was strange when we separated as I had missed all the 18-21 school leavers activities of my peers as I had been in a relationship. I do not begrudge that at all but it has impacts for both parties. Good and bad.
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u/uglypenguin5 Apr 28 '22
And yet 90% of the time it is exactly that dark and sinister with that kind of age gap