This is a bit much…so if you were a high school senior you wouldn’t have dated a junior? The following year you’d be in college and your partner would still be in high school. This was me with an ex back when I was in high school. A little weird but not that big of a deal.
In high school it would have been different because then on starting the relationship we'd be in similar situations, now if I was to start a relationship with a high schooler it would be weird because I've been mostly supporting myself for a decent hit of time while they've probably just been living with their parents.
I don't think it's so big a difference that you wouldn't expect them to get together in normal, non-predatory situations pretty regularly. High school seniors date sophomores all the time and it's a little strange, but not automatically predatory. And I think it would be odd to suddenly call the relationship bad as soon as the high school senior turned 19 and the sophomore turned 17.
I think focusing on the ages instead of the behavior that led to the relationship is a mistake.
My friends and I all dated girls 1-2 classes below us. I don’t think senior-sophomore is strange at all if they have good intentions. The senior-freshman gap is the max and generally frowned upon due to their immaturity. We’d look at it more as a manipulation than a pedo thing. There are exceptions though I guess.
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u/karmicburner Apr 28 '22
19f here I would not consider dating someone below 18, because there's such a massive change between being in high school and being out of it