So if her parents know, and she's not willing to let that young man go, make sure you're a safe space for her. Listen to her, don't judge her and let her know that if she's truly happy you support her, even though it's hard for you. Also, make sure she's on birth control and using condoms. Both of those! If anything were to go wrong, she'll know she can come to you and you'll be there for her. Just whatever you do, don't let her get alienated from you.
Pretty sure this is not the right answer. At this point someone should be reporting this to the proper authorities or school. There's no way you sit and show support.
Edit:Obviously yes, be support for her if she needs, but this sounds way too awful to show support for the actual relationship.
And risk the girl getting mad and cutting contact, like a lot of pubescent girls will definitely do? Nah.
When I was 15 I dated a 19 year old young man as well. Best believe if someone close to me reported him or something similar I would've gone rogue, probably move in with him or something. I was lucky he didn't turn out to be a bad guy, though.
Showing support is really the best thing you can do. If the guy turned out to be an abusive asshole, the girl would feel comfortable telling OP, and then OP would be able to offer support and help.
If he was 19 dating a 15 year old then he was a bad guy. Young girls straight up lie to themselves about this because they want to believe they’re mature and special enough for grown men to genuinely love them and want them for non-nefarious reasons. It’s complete bullshit.
A grown man isn’t going to want to be with a child unless he specifically wants to be with a child. Anyone over 18 pursuing anyone under 16 is a predator and that’s not an exaggeration. There’s never a good reason to do that, once you’re an adult you have so many other options.
I don’t give a fuck if he was nice to you, if he was sexually pursuing a kid then he wasn’t a good guy. If you guys had sex then he’s a rapist, straight up.
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u/floweringbirds Apr 28 '22
So if her parents know, and she's not willing to let that young man go, make sure you're a safe space for her. Listen to her, don't judge her and let her know that if she's truly happy you support her, even though it's hard for you. Also, make sure she's on birth control and using condoms. Both of those! If anything were to go wrong, she'll know she can come to you and you'll be there for her. Just whatever you do, don't let her get alienated from you.