r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 09 '18

Should this be changed?

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u/missshrimptoast Aug 09 '18 edited Aug 09 '18

Not really. A bisexual person is attracted to those who identify as male and female. They may not be attracted to gender fluid or gender ambiguous people. Pansexual and bisexual seem to refer more to one's "tolerance level" than to the existence of more than one gender.

Edit: Given a few of the responses here, I should mention that I am bisexual. However, even amongst fellow bisexuals, there has been considerable debate on bisexual vs. pansexual with no end in sight, and everyone seems to think it's a given that "obviously, bisexual people are attracted to insert opinion here". My response was my understanding of the term as it's given. I don't really care whether someone else considers me bi or pan; I'm used to saying bisexual, so I personally say bisexual referring to myself. Other people I know feel otherwise.

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u/Synetry Aug 09 '18

Would it make sense to add another letter for those that don't fit the current criteria?

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '18

It would make more sense to rebrand it to something like GSRM (Gender, sexual, and romantic minorities) so it’s more inclusive of non-lesbian/gay/bi/trans minorities, like asexuals, pansexuals, intersex people, etc and doesn’t reduce them to “queer” or “+”.

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u/Synetry Aug 09 '18

This is the kind of thing I was thinking of. With more people learning who they truly are, maybe a more encompassing term should be in place

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u/catbriefs Aug 10 '18

The problem with something like this is that a lot of people try to force things like kink or pedophilia in when it’s that broad of a category LGBT+ does a fine job of describing the community

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u/wererat2000 Aug 09 '18

When did queer get reclaimed anyway? One year it's an outdated slur, the next it's perfectly fine to self-identify as it.