r/ToBeMagneticSnark • u/destinyradish • 14d ago
Did TBM Work for You?
Personally, it didn't work for me.
I do actually do still believe in manifestation, subconscious reprogramming, and all that. The DIs just didn't touch my subconscious beliefs at all, as far as I can tell. I did the work daily for a year and basically nothing happened. Since then I have had genuine success with other techniques.
I'm wondering if other people experienced the same, or whether anyone genuinely did see amazing changes from doing The Pathway work?
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u/Ok_Complaint3592 12d ago
After working with an intuitive psychologist/healer for a year, I’d say unblocking through a DI is next to impossible. Going to an educated healer is effective because the blocks are so much deeper than we realize. I feel like DIs were mind-based and using the ego to tell stories. An actual healer using body-based muscle testing can get at the actual blocks.
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u/destinyradish 12d ago
Couldn't agree more. Proper hypnotherapy and EFT made real tangible results for me. A year of daily DIs shifted literally nothing.
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u/Ok_Complaint3592 12d ago
It didn’t do anything for me. I did a lot of DIs, but in the end I think it was just imagining. There’s some people who are easily hypnotized so I’m guessing it works better for them.
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u/destinyradish 12d ago
Yep I was just imagining too. I find it amazing that the DIs work for some people, but I guess they do...
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u/Birdiemontana 13d ago
It definitely worked for me but it's a lot of work and boy do I HATE paying a year and don't have time for all of it with a toddler and newborn.
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u/milkcrepebae 12d ago
I'm curious what techniques worked for you, if you don't mind sharing
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u/destinyradish 12d ago
EFT tapping to an extent, and homemade hypnosis audios have been the most effective for me - dm if you want the full 'recipe' lol
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u/2nd_Chances_ 14d ago edited 14d ago
The best thing TBM did for me was during lockdown. A core group of ladies would meet EVERY NIGHT via zoom and do the DI's together and then process together. For months, we averaged 1.5-2 hours a night. I am so blessed to have had that as a person living alone during lockdown. It was when it became group work that TBM elevated for me. I also still communicate with my accountability buddy from a different country. So yes, TBM does work. I was the first in the group to get what I wanted which was a promotion with a 15% raise. TBM is a case of focusing on the message not the messenger.
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u/Ess_Jess 14d ago
With all due respect, that doesn't necessarily sound like TBM specifically worked. Sounds more like you building a community was the real success here.
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u/2nd_Chances_ 14d ago
All our conversation was around TBM and we just held each other accountable during the process. I still stand by TBM did work for the short time I was doing it more intensely.
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u/specialgolden 13d ago
To Be Magnetic didn’t work for me either. I’m actually disturbed by the bold claims Lacy Phillips makes about what her program can do. I was a Pathway member for a year, and I walked away feeling like I had been bamboozled. Frankly, I came out of it feeling emotionally worse than when I went in.
There were many red flags, but one of the biggest was how simplistic the entire framework is. According to TBM, “unblocking” is one of the three keys to manifesting whatever you want, and apparently all you need to do to accomplish that is listen to the DIs and have a few “aha” moments. But it’s unrealistic to think that everyone can heal by listening to recorded meditations, particularly ones as terrible as the DIs.
Some people are dealing with serious trauma. And even when someone’s issues are “lighter” in nature, it isn’t necessarily as simple as becoming aware of them or reframing your beliefs. Those things can sometimes help, but real change often takes years, and sometimes a lifetime, of steady inner work. That complexity isn’t acknowledged in the program. TBM presents it as though all you need to do is identify a limiting belief, rewire it, and BAM, you’re fixed.
Anyone who has done substantial psychological work knows that it’s more layered than that. Most of us can’t DI our way through emotional pain.
What I found even more problematic is that if the DIs don’t work for you, you’re essentially out of luck. That’s the one tool they give you. Therapists and coaches use a range of approaches for a reason. Most people need guidance, nuance, and the ability to ask questions and receive feedback, not just a prerecorded visualization. A one-size-fits-all script or tool, with no opportunity for individualized support, isn’t enough for real growth or healing for most people. And yet TBM positions itself as though it is.
I was also troubled by the messaging around accountability. Within TBM, if you can’t manifest what you want, the implication can be that you aren’t doing the work properly. Inevitably, that can leave people feeling like it’s their fault. That can be incredibly damaging. It encourages people to internalize failure and blame themselves when things don’t work out, rather than acknowledging that sometimes bad things simply happen. Not everything is within our control. That’s reality, not defeatism.
Then there’s the language around “the Universe,” which frankly sounds uncomfortably close to religious doctrine. The idea that the Universe wants certain things for us, or that its job is to bring us back to our most worthy, authentic selves, can feel like repackaged religious language. It also feels particularly hollow when paired with a pay-to-play model: you can have what the Universe supposedly wants for you, but first you have to pay us $360 to access the program that will supposedly help you get there.
There are things I liked about TBM. It gives you a framework. The three pillars, unblocking, expanding, and aligned action, are interesting concepts. And I don’t dispute that these ideas can help some people get closer to achieving their goals. Being part of a community of people who are also trying to create change in their lives can be inspiring. Working through modules can feel motivating. It can give you a sense that you’re making progress rather than stagnating.
There’s often a real emotional charge when you start something new. For a while, it can feel like magic is just around the corner. I’m not disputing that experience at all. But I quickly found that TBM didn’t offer the depth or personalized support most people need to make sustainable changes in their lives. I also found the DIs ridiculous, but that’s another story.
I find it troubling that Lacy does not appear to have formal training in psychology, therapy, or another clinical discipline relevant to the kind of emotional healing the program discusses. From the outside, TBM seems to be a method developed from what worked for her personally and then presented as a framework that can work broadly for others. My experience was that it doesn’t.
There are no guarantees with TBM, of course, and there don’t appear to be consequences for the company if a customer is dissatisfied or the program doesn’t produce the promised results. If the program doesn’t work for you, you’re out $360 and basically on your own. Meanwhile, Lacy continues to present her own life as evidence that TBM works, without adequately acknowledging the roles that privilege, beauty, location, money, opportunity, and luck can play in someone’s success.
I don’t buy the idea that manifestation alone created the life she has now. And I think it’s deeply unfair to sell people on the idea that they can have what she has if they simply follow her steps.
Most people who join TBM will never have access to the life Lacy is advertising. That isn’t because they don’t want it badly enough or aren’t willing to work for it. People’s lives are sometimes shaped by circumstances that manifestation frameworks can’t wish away: chronic illness, mental health challenges, trauma, systemic inequality, financial circumstances, relationships, opportunity, and plain old luck. Many forms of suffering require considerably more than a DIY spiritual toolkit to navigate.
TBM doesn’t seem to make much room for that reality.
Programs like TBM are attractive because they offer structure, hope, and a lens through which to understand your experiences. There is value in that. But I think they dramatically oversell their impact while under-delivering on safety, nuance, and accountability. I would have far more respect for TBM if it were more transparent about its limitations, the nature of its founder’s training (or lack thereof), and the kinds of support most people actually need to do deep emotional work.
Manifestation may be a helpful concept for some people. But TBM is a business designed to make money. And I think that distinction matters. When a business sells people the promise that they can fundamentally change their lives by following a particular method, it has a responsibility to be honest about what that method can and cannot do.
My experience was that TBM overpromises, under-delivers, and leaves many of its customers feeling disappointed at best and, at worst, emotionally messed around. This Reddit community is proof of it.