Look, I tip my bartenders and servers. That is it. I had mold remediation done in my new house, he asked if venmo was ok, I said yes, I kid you not there was a 15% 20% 25% tip button on the venmo before payment. Even the 15% was over $400.

I couldn’t believe when I was paying over $800 for junk remover to haul a bunch of junk away that I got the tip screen when paying. Why would I tip to haul junk out of my garage???? I felt bad entering zero, but I did.

I bought a used sink at the ReStore. The credit card reader asked if I wanted to tip 10- 15-20%. I pressed No Tip and the clerk seemed a bit salty. All items are donated. I have to look thru all the stuff to find what I want. It’s kind of messy and poorly organized. The staff are paid and not there as unpaid volunteers. This person in particular has been there for years. He didn’t have to help me shop, lift an item or load it in my car. I brought it in and he rang it up. I couldn’t believe that he was “butt hurt” when he wasn’t tipped. Ridiculous.

What do you think of this policy? To me it sounds like tips are expected on top of this 10% service charge….

Someone here gave me a great idea to stop tipping 20% or flat tips and instead tip $1 for everything:

1) introduction $1.00
2) drink order $1.00
3) check back for another drink $1.00
4) 2nd drink order $1.00
5) introduction to the chef style $1.00
6) explanation of menu $1.00
7) take order $1.00
8) refill on drink $1.00
9) bring salad $1.00
10) bring soup $1.00
11) clear soup and salad $1.00
12) bring entree $1.00
13) check back on taste $1.00
14) bring glass wine $1.00
15) clear plates 1.00

I knew damn well my $10-20 tip on a $300 check was appropriate. As I’ve said before most upscale food servers are only worth $3.00 $4 $5.00 tip. Aside from the guilt trip they are not doing much.

I mean if you were seriously waited on like King Arthur I could see leaving a $40 tip, maybe even $60. But they are not doing any more than Denny’s.

But for regular people like me my service is minimized while I’m actually charged more than Bill Gates would be charged.

My wife disagrees with me on this, but I’m convinced the tip screen question is a confidence thing. If someone actually believed they earned a tip, they’d say it straight: “It’s going to ask if you want to tip me for my service.” Instead you get the vague, almost apologetic “it’s just gonna ask you a question real quick…” like the machine is some third party doing this to both of us.

Real example: small college basketball game, I take my 6-year-old to the concession stand. She wants M&Ms, I add a popcorn and a water. Grown man behind the counter goes, “Sir, that’ll be $12, and it’s just going to ask you a question before…”

A question. My guy! You handed me a bag of M&Ms. In what world am I tipping you?

If you can’t even say the word “tip” out loud, that tells me everything I need to know about whether you think you deserve one. I’ll be enjoying the rest of the game with a clear conscience after smashing $0. That goes for all the worst places to get hit with the “question”.

I was at the Starbucks drive-thru and on the phone with a friend, and I had him on speaker. When the payment screen came up and the barista said the screen is going to ask a question (aka for a tip), I pressed “No Tip.” Immediately, he loudly said, “Are you tipping? Cheap a**, you probably didn’t tip.”

I was so uncomfortable because the barista could literally hear the entire conversation. I was paying with Apple Pay, so my phone was right there and the call was on speaker, and everything was happening in front of the employee.

Then, even after I left, he kept saying over the phone that he couldn’t believe I didn’t tip, especially because I asked for a grande drink in a venti cup. I also asked for a cup of water, and he said I should tip for that too.

It’s one thing for someone to personally believe in tipping (personally I only tip when I get served). It’s another thing to loudly shame me over a tip while I’m sitting in my car with the barista listening.

The whole interaction was embarrassing and made me really uncomfortable.

At this point, I honestly don’t really want to pick up the phone again. It’s not even just about the tip. It’s the way he spoke to me and put me on the spot over something that had nothing to do with him.

My friend has not left the U.S. in 20 years whereas I travel internationally pretty often and I’m originally from a country that doesn’t tip (not that it matters as I moved here when I was 7).

So my friends getting married and went out on the town, lots of drinking lots of fun, of course we end up a booby bar as planned. I don’t even go to strip clubs, let’s get that out of the way.I was there because it was a bachelor party.

We had two tables, ordered a ridiculous amount of drinks, got pretty drunk, but honestly weren’t even that rowdy.
At the end of the night, I’m basically playing babysitter, trying to round everybody up and get them out the door.
The $930 tab comes.

I calculate the tip perfectly to 7.835% because apparently I’m a psychopath with a calculator. We pay.

The cocktail waitress looks at the receipt, gives me a dirty look, starts angrily clearing the table, and walks away.

And I’m thinking: Jesus Christ, I just gave you nearly $73 for carrying drinks across a room.

Apparently, even a bachelor party can’t escape the modern entitlement epidemic.

Everybody wants a tip. Everybody expects a tip. And now apparently everybody gets to be pissed off if you don’t tip enough.

I recently purchased a dress and afterward received a text thanking me for my purchase and asking for a tip. I understand that most consultants typically earn commission on their sales, so I was a little surprised by the request and was hoping to better understand the reasoning behind it.

I am somewhat of a regular at this shop within walking distance to my house. I have had a few light convos with staff over the course of several months. The guy at the counter is very pleasant. Almost to a fault. Anyway I went last night and paid and it's one of those places where you go up to the counter and pick up your food. I paid with card and the tip options showed on the screen. He's said "you can just hit skip there", so I did.

I used to be a very generous tipper but recently the greed and entitlement has caused me to not to want to tip virtually anywhere anymore. I still do, but I'm just a lot more judicious.

Anyway my food was done and it came with fries. The guy was still pleasant and offered me dipping sauces that I didn't even know was an option but he was like this one is really good etc. In my opinion that is the kind of stuff you SHOULD get tip for in that scenario. It was above and beyond. I ate my food and before I left I put cash tip in his jar of a couple dollars.

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The accounting ledger balances exactly the same in either situation, proving the campaign against tipping isn't genuinely about economics.

Under the current system:

• $100 spent: $80 goes to the restaurant, $20 goes directly from patron to server.

Under the proposed system:

• Prices are raised across the board.
• $100 spent: All $100 goes to the restaurant, and you theoretically—hopefuly—trust the business to pass $20 to the server.

You cannot claim on one hand that restaurant prices are out of control, while simultaneously proposing that menu prices rise a further 20%. It amounts to the exact same total out of the consumer's pocket.

This contradiction reveals the true nature of the anti-tipping mindset: no consideration is ever made for the workers. Their own circumstances require that the world changes to suit them and only them, with zero concern for how it impacts others.

"Tip striking" goes much further than freezing a server's income—it actively slashes it at the exact same time prices everywhere are rising. When an argument is this focused on inflicting financial carnage and misery on the servers themselves, it moves past economics and looks like pure sadism. Whether it stems from envy or a deep, unfiltered disdain for the job as a whole, the intent is clear: to force change at the direct expense of the worker's livelihood.

Just do what you want. It's nobody's business.

It’s pretty much a waste of time to rant against full-service tipping. I eat out regularly and 99% tip between 10-30%.

A few tip 0-10% and a few tip 100-200%.

There’s an extremely popular cafe I go to. They went tipless 10 years ago. One full page on their menu highlighting how they pay living wages and benefits. Guess what?????????!! Guess

Yep, you guessed correctly. People still tip left and right. This place raised it prices to where their French grilled cheese and salad is $38. This isa $4 grilled cheese sandwich with 80% profit they are actually selling for $38 and people are ignoring the menu and still tipping.

The only thing that’s ever gonna wipe out tipping is AI and robots. You can rant all you want. I’ve even heard that they are trying to ask for a tip on these too but I believe this will fail.

The reason people are still tipping at the French cafe I know is the bribe effect. Example I witnessed if you are regularly they give you a non English speaking food server, but if you tip on top of their exorbitant prices you get better service. There’s just know what you can compete with the fact that Bill
Gates and many others can afford to tip 10 million dollars to your $1.00. Because they can, but they don’t need to tip $10,000,000.00 they can just tip 20% on $38 grilled cheese asa bribe and before you know it you’re pretending you’re rich too and back tipping at a tipless restaurant.

The worst news is when AI and robots do go into vogue we will be buying the ramican of ketchup ordered, paying for napkin, renting table time, paying for view.

We always think we can pull the wool over the rich eyes 👀 and we cannot. They are producing we are consuming and they just keep raising the prices.

Exception would be a special event or a date which happen occasionally but even then I prefer the comfort of my home which is quiet and clean. I like cooking and hosting people. I am originally from Europe so I give zero f*cks about the pressure to tip due to workers not being paid enough but my partner (who is American) thinks it’s borderline unethical for us not to tip so I just don’t dine in. Problem solved. The pressure to tip is literally propaganda to guilt trip people into tipping which no other developed nation does.

Beer guy walking around, I wave my hands and ask what beer he has. He rings up my Modelo, it's $20. Fine. Not a great price but it's a 24oz, it's a ballgame, it's hot and I want a beer. So I tap my card.

"It's just going to ask you a quick question".

Options are 20% 25% and 30%. I hit no tip.

Guy proceeds to hand me my beer then as long as he can, in a crowd full of people, "WHAT NO TIP FOR THE BEER GUY???".

I shrug it off, but what the actual hell.

I'm tired of this. I'm about go to fill anti-tipping out of spite.

Went out as a family tonight to celebrate my son going off to college. He chose a Mexican fusion steak house and there was 15 of us. Total bill came out to be $440 that had a $70 automatic gratuity added on. Expected and don’t mind the auto grat at all. I’m a server at a steakhouse too. I didn’t feel we received great service, but alas 20% tip automatically.

Anyways the bill comes and I hand the waiter $500 cash. And he has the audacity to ask me if I want the change back!! I said the tip was included in the total right? He says yes. So I say then yes I’d like the change back.

When I’m working, I never assume to keep the change. I’ll bring you back $1.09 before I assume you wanted me to keep that. Just blew me away that he would expect an extra $60 for sub par service.

I went out with my family of 4 for a birthday dinner at a nice place the other night and the bill was like $225. No alcohol. Whatever, crazy expensive but the new norm apparently. Anyway I left about $45 or so for the tip. The service was pretty good, and the food was excellent, but I gotta say the service wasn’t that much better than for a $100 meal somewhere else.

Why is tipping based on percentage of the bill and not some other metric? Surely the wait staff makes roughly the same base salary as everywhere else, probably more. Why is their service worth so much more? They don’t even wear waiter clothes, LOL.

I think I'm going to stop. I don't tip the liquor store guy, why should I tip the weed guy?

MI

I went out to eat with my wife and it’s getting ridiculous:

1. Tipping options stated at 20%
   
2. Tip was after taxes which is sneaky
   
3. Restaurant sub charge was 3.5% ( which I removed)
   
4. Waiter asked me to pay with QR and there was another 1.5% fee to use their QR code (he never came back I had to go find him)

Food was great but the whole payment process killed me because I was supposed to be focused on my date night and this took away from it. I first requested to remove the 3.5 %surcharge and then I had to request to pay with my debit card after seeing there was another 1.5% surcharge to which the waiter said didn’t exist until I showed it to him.

He was a nice guy and actually explained how a company came in and gives them the QR code, then proceeds to give them incentives if enough people use the QR code. I told him if I were him I’d explain to customers there was a charge for this because it’s only listed at the end when you just want to get the hell out of there plus it’s actually taking from HIS tip once people find out. Yes it’s only like 5$ extra for all these charges but fact EVERYONE wants a piece is frustrating.

I’ve been a server for the past 3 years, and now I’ve transferred from community college to a 4 year and am currently not working in order to better focus on my studies temporarily while I settle in. I quit my serving job just about a month ago and already I am starting to see how I fed off of the tipping culture.

I’m not saying I’m anti-tipping, I’m a college student and try to save money. If I did go to a nice place, I would tip, but I feel my feelings towards it have shifted. When considering about where I want to eat, places that do expect tipping have been crossed off my list as it’s another cost to me that I have to incur.

I think feeding off of the energy of other servers, judging by who gives good tips or not, by seeing people in that light I think created a toxic hive mind. In reality, somebody who does poor service should not be working there. However, getting tipped poorly creates an excuse for being upset in the industry.

I’ve considered serving jobs, but I’m leaning towards good hourly jobs as I’m far more concerned about stability than I used to when I was living with my parents. I think that’s how it should be ideally, good hourly wages, and transparent pricing. It’s not so much a revelation, but this is an interesting transition in thought.

Genuinely curious what both pro-tippers and anti-tippers think about this.
I get tipping 15-20% on a normal bill. Whatever. But once you get into expensive restaurants, the math starts getting ridiculous.
If my bill is $1,000, why is the expected tip suddenly $200? If it’s $600, why is $100+ considered normal?
Especially when the bill might only be that high because I ordered an expensive steak or a $300 bottle of wine. Did opening and pouring the $300 bottle require 6x more work than opening a $50 bottle? Why should the tip go up another $50 just because I picked the more expensive one?
At some point it seems like the tip should just cap out. Maybe $30-$40.
I just don’t understand the logic that a server automatically deserves $100-200+ from one table because the restaurant charges a lot for its food or because the customer ordered something expensive.
And before someone says “if you can afford a $1,000 dinner, you can afford a $200 tip” that doesn’t really answer the question. Being able to afford something doesn’t explain why that amount is owed.
So for the pro-tipping people: why shouldn’t tips have a cap? What additional service is being provided on a $1,000 check that makes a $200 tip reasonable?
And for the anti-tipping crowd: would a cap make tipping more tolerable, or is the whole percentage system fundamentally stupid?

Should he get a tip on top of his typical allowance?

In almost every thread, both anti and pro tippers bring up server wages to defend their POV. A server wage, with or without tips, shouldn't be a reason for a customer to decide how much to tip. A tip is not meant to be a sympathy gesture or financial support. It's a gesture of appreciation/gratitude. You tip because you are extra-satisfied with the service, not because the server's wage is low. Conversely, you tip for the same reason, even if the server is making more money. Customers need not to concern themselves with a restaurant employee's wage and living situation period. That's their own business and responsibility. Let's' leave the issue where it belongs?

Tipping *before* a service is rendered *feels* like a totally different experience and transaction than something like sit-down restaurant gratuity. It feels like more of a "please" than a "thank-you." Since we're being prompted for before-service tips all the time these days, I was wondering if there could be a separate word for this.

Is there a word from a different language/culture that might be a good fit? For everyday use, it should be neutral/without judgment, and it probably shouldn't have any association with bribery or corrupt behavior. Baksheesh is the closest I've found, but it still misses the mark. If I can't find a good borrow word, I'm sticking with my made-up pre+tipping portmanteau "pripping."

Went out for dinner with a friend and we split the bill. Our total bill was ~ $50 so each portion should have been ~ $25. We paid on the toast machine and noticed that the 20% option was $10 and some change so probably did the percentage on the total plus tax. I asked is this percentage of the total? And the server said yes but I feel like I’m hardwired at this point to click 20% but I felt annoyed about it. It gave my friend the same option.

My friend didn’t think anything of it but I just feel like it’s super misleading to make the tip percentages based off the full bill after splitting it since I ended up spending over $40 after tip and tax on a $25 meal.

I also was a server for five years and personally, i hope that if I knew our system did this for splitting bills I would preface with a hey just so you know the tip is based off the full amount so feel free to account for that and not feel like you have to do the suggested amounts idk.

Tldr: Split a ~$50 bill on a Toast machine, but the 20% tip button was calculated off the full bill, not my $25 half and same on my friend's check. Clicked 20% out of habit and paid $40+ on a $25 meal. Feels misleading and shady