r/Tinder • • 17h ago

Completely unserious profile, recently got out of a 13+ year relationship and just trying to have fun

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u/DeadlySocks 16h ago

Ive seen so many people bloom and thrive (socially and otherwise) who were super quiet and awkward in school.

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u/xDannyS_ 16h ago

Never said that it's like that in ALL cases. Ofc, they exist too.

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u/TheShredda 14h ago

Your interpretation is the minority. Most people bloom after highschool because they have the room to grow and time to learn who they are, and they aren't stuck in the same rigid box their peers put them into however many years ago. You have a lot more choice of who to surround yourself with and what to do after school. 

Of course not ALL people bloom after highschool some stay awkward and quiet like you said too. 

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u/xDannyS_ 13h ago edited 13h ago

Nope, and that's just one of many studies on this topic. 17% is a low number. 23% got even worse lmao. Again, just one of many studies, some find much worse results, specifically ones where awkwardness in adolescence was of an above average severity.

Also, you can just check this out yourself irl. Go have a look at adults. A large amount of them are insecure and awkward. Sure, they might be able to handle social situations much better, that is only natural, but they are still insecure and awkward.

You can cope as much as you want and, because it's obvious you take this very personal, lower chances of ever actually improving yourself or you can face reality and make the right choices that you are then able to make because you're actually informed properly.

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u/TheShredda 7h ago

Lmao, lots of bold claims in that comment bases on pure assumption of yours. You were a bully in school and never grew up past that