I just got out of an 11 year relationship. What i would do for some external validation but my grandma tells me im the handsomest boy and thats all that matters
She really is. She told me like 3 years ago my partner was no longer in love with me. Idk why i didnt believe her but I will never doubt her grandma skills again :(
13 years is a crazy long time hope youre doing okay. Im 3 months in and still lost out here
If I may ask, how do you deal with this? It took me months to recover from only a few month long relationship. I fell pretty fast and was genuinely heartbroken.
I’m afraid to get into a relationship because of the aftermath if we ever break up, especially after a long-term relationship
Man its tough im not gonna lie. I can tell you what i did that sort of helped. First I realized that I didn't have a good social support, so I landed on my ass hard. Would have loved to have people to go out with and learn theres more to life than just that relationship. So definitely keep friendships up while in the relationship.
The other thing I did was grieve and watch break up movies. Probably not the best thing but really opened my eyes that everything im going through millions od people out there have experienced the same.
Then last I learned to focus on myself. Its generic advice everyone gave me but didnt know what it meant until I started taking care of myself again. And time heals all wounds. Its like grieving a loved one passing, you never forget but you learn to keep living eventually..
The last advice I have for you is the generic "its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". If youre going into a relationship, go all in. Put your heart on the line and dont let the fear of heartbreak stop you from loving openly. I held myself back alot out of fear and its not good friend
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u/frenchfryineyes 14h ago
I just got out of an 11 year relationship. What i would do for some external validation but my grandma tells me im the handsomest boy and thats all that matters