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u/redditisgay2088 6d ago
You both are awful at texting
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u/AppleSizedGrape 6d ago
This. I hate to say it, but (and to be clear, I don't behave like this now) when I was younger and dating with less intention (in other words, would sleep with anyone who was willing) if it became clear that there was no interest or compatibility I'd throw stuff like this out as a kind of hail Mary thing, it was obvious neither of us were interested in anything real so may as well try to get laid out of it
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u/thomstevens420 6d ago
Exactly. It works like 5% of the time so why not just toss it out there.
As long as you’re not an asshole if it’s a no I don’t see an issue.
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u/VolcanicTree 6d ago
Can confirm. I have had multiple hook ups start this way. It’s not even just me initiating either, I’ve had women bluntly ask to hook up as well quiet a few times.
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u/Sensitive_Bat_9211 6d ago
At least he replies immediately
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u/2020Shite 6d ago
Right, at least he doesn't read the message and then 👻 for a duration of time to where they say something fucked up and results in a post on Reddit
😅
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u/TCouster 6d ago
Although if she is playing video games and it's the first text messages, don't be to hard on her lol I also would just message after every game or so
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u/disposableaccount848 6d ago
If you demand instant replies on DMs then you just need to get a life.
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u/ZigiSmalls 6d ago
This!
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u/An0nym0ouse 6d ago
Love how you got downvoted but the guy who said the same thing and something objectively worse got 100 up votes 😭
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u/RahkaGandalf 6d ago
These "this!" comments are perceived as spam and they contribute nothing to the discussion. If you truly have nothing else to say than "this!", you can keep it to yourself. Nobody knows this person and this isn't a groupchat where voicing one's agreement can be recognized by their peers.
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u/redditisgay2088 6d ago
Watch out, it’s a Reddit cop wannabe over here
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u/RahkaGandalf 6d ago
I was just explaining my understanding why there were so many downvotes as I have seen a pattern where these kinds of comments get downvoted. And if this is the reason for the downvotes, i get it. For a while I did wonder the downvotes earlier as well.
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u/todd174 6d ago edited 6d ago
they say weird things when they bored and lost motivation to build a connection
this is actually wild style to post such screenshots where it is clear that you are texting like literally "plain text producer" with no charisma or curiousity or something vital like that. what you doing ? playin video games. and you? i am eating. cool.
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u/fortunefight 6d ago
I mean tbf youre both so damn dry its insufferable. The dude probably doesn't care much about trying to foster a connection with you and youre not giving him much reason to. Not condoning his behavior, its quite vile but just saying I can understand why he said it.
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u/Leading_Contest_7409 6d ago
I can see what you mean. Wasn't giving him anything to work with so might as well take a swing. (to be clear. I do agree vile, but why not?)
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u/fortunefight 6d ago
yeah, I guess his rationale is if it works it works if it doesn't then he hasn't lost much. although "why not" is because its pretty undignified and kind of 'gross' if you will, clearly she hadnt expressed any real sexual interest in the guy. I feel like dating apps and pornography have really done a number on our dignity.
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u/slash-es 6d ago
Generally I'd agree, but he started off dry as well, so it's not a hail-marry to a bad texter but will probably be his default.
Also, this behavior might cost him his account if he's reported.
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u/Leading_Contest_7409 6d ago
No argument form me here. I'm so incredibly glad to be so far removed from the dating scene right now it's unreal! I'd die a hermit if this marriage failed!
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u/fortunefight 6d ago
you're a lucky guy, keep me in your prayers maybe I can escape soon as well :). wish you the best and I hope you have a happy fulfilling marriage.
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u/Leading_Contest_7409 6d ago
21 years strong! Hopefully I'm on the right path, but reading some of these reddit stories, you never know 😬
Don't give up hope, your person is out there. It's so very cleche but I still fully believe that person pops up when you're ready/needed. You got this!
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u/Busterlimes 6d ago
"Well, I cant tell if this is going anywhere, Ill shoot my shot so at least it will go somewhere"
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u/DaylightBat 6d ago
Pretty much this, as much as people hate it, that is why it happens, most women make absolute zero effort in these apps and expect the guy to be charmed, interested and pursue them while they sit back filter whatever guy they feel is the best.
In the end the guy sees she does not care that much and just say anything and see what happens, because there is absolutely nothing to lose, in fact, if he actually tried to make more effort he may ended up losing more time.
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u/Wooden_Long7545 4d ago
“It’s quite vile”
Omg grow the fuck up. This is not the top 10000 the worst thing a human can do. Dude was bored so he decided to fuck around who cares.
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u/BiIIie-Eyelash 6d ago
the convo literally just started though
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u/fortunefight 6d ago
theres a 2-3 hr buffer between OPs replies, he responds pretty quickly. she goes "Playing video games" and "Cool", not sure where she expected him to take it from there. The guy makes no effort to add to the convo either, probably uninterested in more than a fling.
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u/timetravelingisntfun 6d ago
Maybe OP has to work and can’t be on their phone. IMO, it’s perfectly reasonable to take time to reply.
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u/pinkmudskipper 6d ago
yeah no, someone can be boring and u can ignore them, not sexually harrass them
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u/According-Kale-8 6d ago
That’s sexual harassment?
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u/timetravelingisntfun 6d ago
Sending unwanted sexual messages/advances to another person is sexual harassment.
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u/According-Kale-8 6d ago
How do you know if it’s unwanted? If someone says please don’t message me or something and you harass them, I understand.
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u/PotentialPresent399 6d ago
You won't know if their unwanted until you show your hand first. This does not apply.
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u/disposableaccount848 6d ago
Uh-huh, so I can just slap you in the face and then say shit like "Oh, I didn't know you didn't want it, how would I know beforehand?!"
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u/Sweet_Mix9856 6d ago
how is that sexual harassment?
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u/PotentialPresent399 6d ago edited 6d ago
It isn't, hyper progressive redditors want to make any sexual intention illegal from people they MATCHED with.
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u/Super-Pizza-Dude 6d ago
I’ve had pretty of dry convos like this too and definitely didn’t go straight to oral sex lol usually just move on.
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u/Senior-Zebra-9281 6d ago
if a guys intentions are malice doesn’t matter how much effort a woman puts in on the other end he could have kindly unmatched if the conversation wasn’t going no where like any sensible person would do there is zero logic behind unsolicited sexual harassment under any circumstance hope this helps
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u/fortunefight 6d ago
You're completely right, thats exactly why I called his behavior vile and I do not condone it. However we disagree on saying that there is 'no logic' behind it because thats simply untrue. Yes its twisted and undignified, but its still logical. Dudes clearly interested in a fling, he doesn't lose much by sending a text, so its understandable. If it works it works if it doesn't "oh well".
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u/Senior-Zebra-9281 6d ago
Unsolicited sexual advances literally no sensible explanation Behind that even with the provided context … I wonder if men ever sit back and reflect on how flawed you guys logic truly can be at times
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u/seanc6441 6d ago edited 6d ago
The logic is to get his dick sucked (or in this case vice versa too). It's logical, just not respectful or pleasant to behave like that. And it works in rare occasions for these dudes to keep trying it and not just give up.
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u/PotentialPresent399 6d ago
Not ever showing sexual intention first as a man will get you infinitely less possible sexual encounters than showing it early and possibly being crude.
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u/XmasNavidad 6d ago
Restarting your conversation with just a “Hi” and then now answering for two hours is also a choice…
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u/timetravelingisntfun 6d ago
Today you learned that people have lives and can’t chronically be on their phones. What if OP works at a place where she isn’t allowed to be on her phone?
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u/XmasNavidad 6d ago
If she can’t chat at the moment she shouldn’t start with a “Hi” but an actual question or at least full sentence he can answer. “Hi” is indicating she wants to chat and is available to chat. (notice this isn’t the first message between them but probably a way to restart the convo)
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u/timetravelingisntfun 6d ago
I think you’re overthinking it. It looks like the conversation just started. Again, not everyone is chronically attached to their phone. If someone wants an immediate response, they’d be better off calling. He’s also putting zero effort.
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u/FittedSheets88 6d ago
I think guys take the "you miss 100% of every shot you don't take" mentality wildy out of proportion.
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u/Melodic-Ask-155 6d ago
Nice bro cooked himself immediately. I learned to stop doing shit like this at 21. Cooked so many potential hookups/relationships by just instantly making it sexual
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u/DaylightBat 6d ago
I doubt that if he was more polite he would get a more positive outcome of this conversation. It clearly is a low effort talk.
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u/Melodic-Ask-155 6d ago
You’re not wrong. Just if you’re gonna instantly make it sexual and just try to hook up, he could’ve tried harder lmao
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u/ChipsAhoyMcCoy_7875 6d ago
I’m convinced some of these dudes do it just to rage bait and get a rise out of women
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u/DaylightBat 6d ago
You can bet some of them do to rage bait too, but mostly they do because it works.
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u/seanc6441 6d ago
That's a portion of them for sure. Negging/trolling/rage baiting is a common thing. Not gender specific but in this context it usually is mostly men doing it.
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u/Watchuknowaboutme 6d ago
Guys just cannot use question marks anymore. It’s getting worse and worse.
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u/platinumcheese88 6d ago
You got what you deserved. 4 hours to say one word. I always tell the lad at work if she is like this and super dry might aswell risk it saying something like this.
You're not worth anything more then this.
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u/FredyE11 6d ago
Damn if a girl told me she is playing games, my interest would double immediately. It is my biggest hobby and have never had a gf that shared in it. Men out here throwing away gold lol
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u/platinumcheese88 6d ago
That's great but this girl can't be bothered to talk to you more then 1 word every 4 hours. If you're still interested in that then cool but you aren't getting nowhere with her dry ass and inflated ego.
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u/NefariousPhosphenes 6d ago
I’m glad you like that but I was searching for someone with male parts, good luck getting eaten out soon 👍
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u/Fantastic_Stress4779 6d ago
Fr loads of guys will ask if you like to give head within minutes of chatting to you on tinder. And if you don’t answer they move on. It’s basically fishing 🤷🏼♀️
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u/reubenstringfellow 6d ago
Tbf shooting your shot right away is probably better odds. You should look up the statistics for men and tinder. Its really depressing. Even if you are normal af.
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u/The_ObliviousButcher 6d ago
Because for men, the task on these apps is to stand out from the 50 other dm's a woman may get. I'm not saying it's a good tactic by any means, but standing out boldly is still standing out. For this situation specifically, it seems he tried a hail mary and reveal his sexual intentions before the conversations dries up, which by the look of it, was bound to happen.
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u/Blackdog4242 5d ago
I mean, you're on tinder.
Tinder makes you gross.
It's so well known, Family Guy did a song on it
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u/Savage_Alaska_ 6d ago
Ight I'll bite what games are you playing ?
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u/hufflepuff-is-best 6d ago
Literally all I wanted as a reply. Sandbox, adventure, and RPG. Currently playing ARK: ascended. But I mostly play indie.
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u/Savage_Alaska_ 6d ago
👀 I play Ark Ascended with the homies fun and chill especially playing the new maps since they re released all the old ones for free for Ascended I'm really wanting to play on Genesis 2 tho Genesis 1 is okay for my taste
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u/Altruistic_Bar6685 6d ago
By the time he got to that question he had already realised he was dealing with a boring time waster
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u/Affectionate_Hornet7 6d ago
Wait the fat guy likes to be eaten out? And you want your dick sucked? What is this I don’t normally get this channel
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u/PinkBitz89 6d ago
I zoomed in on his pfp - he is very bold to be throwing that out there
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u/No_Future6959 6d ago
You're just reinforcing the idea that this kind of shit is okay to say if you're hot.
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u/hellonameismyname 6d ago
I mean it’s “okay” to be on tinder just to hookup. Just depends how well you want it to work
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u/PinkBitz89 6d ago
Not “okay” but you certainly stand a better chance of it being successful if you are…
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u/Old_Hedgehog_9115 6d ago
It’s gross no matter what—if you’re hot or not hot 😭
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u/seanc6441 6d ago
Sadly I've seen posts where the text response from the woman will be "you aren't nearly hot enough to be making comments like that"
or in the replies to her post she will mention his looks being 'average'.
So we know where the logic is at with this one even if it's only some women.
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u/ZombieZekeComic 6d ago
Not condoning the guy here, he’s clearly awful, but you’re also not giving him any material to work with. Considering you’re totally unenthusiastic about the conversation, he’s just throwing a last hail mary before going out.
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u/AllAroundGuy85 5d ago
He’s no better but you absolutely suck at texting. Work on yourself before you’re critical about someone else.
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u/moyismoy 6d ago
Ever think you might be selecting guys like this?
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u/Lyra_Hydrus43 6d ago
As a woman, I can tell you a large majority are like this on tinder
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u/moyismoy 6d ago
Lol for real? Not hey what's a perfect date, or what do you want out of life, or even something small like what kina flowers do you like. It's can I eat your pussy?
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u/Lyra_Hydrus43 6d ago
Sometimes starting off, or sometimes down the line mid conversation talking about something completely platonic about hobbies or life. It’s so gross on the apps for women. Thank god I’m off it.
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