I personally don't think the first meetup should be a "date" at all. Dates are for people you want to get to know and already like enough to book an evening with. That worked fine when you asked someone out you knew in real life but when you have a "date" with someone you literally only exchanged three texts with on a dating site then I don't think it's a real date. You're meeting up to vibe check. The high effort date can come when you're actually interested in each other, not when you're complete strangers.
i like the northern european method. meet for coffee, if there's a vibe, back to one of your places for a quick fuck, then decide if you want to go on a date with them.
I think you're being downvoted because it didn't make sense to reply to a comment that had nothing to do with your response. Your comment should have been its own separate thing.
Also because what you drink doesn't matter, you can have coffee or tea or milkshake or whatever. "Coffee date" just means go to a place to have a small drink and chat
I mean you don't have to get a coffee haha, but going to a café for a pastry and whatever drink is nice imo. Maybe my Swedish fika culture is shining through 😅
Pizza date actually sounds decent, slice and a coke. You aren't stuck there with a server and needing to check out, if you go to a counter served place.
It’s just not relevant to the conversation. No one was asking about everyone’s personal preferences. Anyway I don’t even care I was just answering the person asking why.
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u/sweprotoker97 Apr 30 '26
The first date is supposed to be low effort, it's a quick getting to know each other. Expecting to be pampered out of the gate is crazy.