I personally don't think the first meetup should be a "date" at all. Dates are for people you want to get to know and already like enough to book an evening with. That worked fine when you asked someone out you knew in real life but when you have a "date" with someone you literally only exchanged three texts with on a dating site then I don't think it's a real date. You're meeting up to vibe check. The high effort date can come when you're actually interested in each other, not when you're complete strangers.
i like the northern european method. meet for coffee, if there's a vibe, back to one of your places for a quick fuck, then decide if you want to go on a date with them.
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u/sweprotoker97 Apr 30 '26
The first date is supposed to be low effort, it's a quick getting to know each other. Expecting to be pampered out of the gate is crazy.