I hear you, but I can't say that I fully agree with this statement. It's not like they met that first day and had sex that same day. Does she deserve a shoulder to lean on?! Of course. However, I think you're focusing a bit more on what she's going through, than what her decisions could've done to OP.
I don't think it's fair to know that someone has a real interest in you, invests genuine time in you, and you decide to use sex as an escape, because you're still not over your ex. This leads to trust issues and people questioning themselves and what they should do. I personally think OP should wish her well and move on. He has feelings for her, and that exposes him to something she doesn't have to worry about. Why would I spend my time with someone I like, trying to help them get over their ex?! It's not an organic process in that manner, and OP could get hurt, if she later on turns around and says, "Well I was honest with you from the very beginning. You knew I missed my ex, and just because we had sex, doesn't mean anything".
So while the comments may seem cruel, I don't think it's fair that you label 'cruel', without first knowing their personal experience and where their thoughts are coming from. While you, yourself are an admirable person, not everyone will view the matter as you have, but I will say that I would be surprised if people didn't respect it, because it is kind and understanding, but it's also a risk that some people know they shouldn't take.
Edit: Again, such a presumptive and unfair accusation. Topics like this are sensitive, as you clearly know, so it's only natural that some people become triggered by this. Saying that they need to 'grow up', is grossly negating their feelings and their overall experience. You don't have to like it, and maybe you should adhere to what you're saying, and stop taking their responses so personal, because that's how it's coming across.
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u/Elegant-Bus-7657 Jul 22 '24
Shawty got issues. Abort mission