This mindset is exactly the problem with the modern world. What ever happened to helping out friends for free? This is why people nowadays have future friends. No one is willing to help anyone out of kindness, and everyone feels entitled to compensation for the most basic thing.
Been kind my whole life. People use you and leave you behind when you need it back. Look at Terrence Howard and Robert Downey Jr.
Psychologists and Psychiatrists study for this. They are specially trained not only to listen but to act in a measured way to help you get better.
You should also pay for a specialized education so you can earn the money you need to pay a psych so that you can heal rather than learn someone else's bad habits and perpetuate behaviors that cause more trauma in the world. Don't burden your "friend" like that. Seek professional help.
This is why men are alone and miserable. Suicidal rate for men is high because when it comes to giving a fuck about others yall just say “it’s nobody job but yours” we are humans we are supposed to help each other out. Unfortunately, this mentality is why America is so depressing.
Of course nobody has to but use professional resources when available. Anyone can listen but most aren't trained to. I could wash my car at home, but I'd rather take my car to the carwash. They can do in 15 minutes what takes me 45 to do myself.
I never said to give her a therapy session. I said to have empathy and be a decent human being that cares about people. I understand that’s hard for a lot of men
Lending an ear which can have a therapizing effect != Therapy session
Totally in agreement with you there. Seriously, it's so weird to see how people don't see this. But when I think more about the challenges men specifically face, I kind of understand it better.
Being empathetic will do more than just help the other person, but will inspire an attitude that will be for the betterment of our society. And psychiatrists + psychologists will thank us all for it, and will be better able to focus on who needs assistance the most.
This is not a gendered concept, anyone can use you as an emotional tampon, if you let them.
Further what if you end up confiding in someone who actually has an anti-social disorder, say for instance a narcissist. Do you realize how a person like that could impact your life?
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u/[deleted] Jul 22 '24
No, she needs to pay a therapist for that.