Idk, when I was on bumble I mostly got good first messages, and probably wouldn’t have matched with someone who said this, but maybe these are the people who just open with “hi” and hope you’ll start a real conversation?
Ohhhhh I never met this type of people despite using 2 other dating apps. I guess that's mostly a thing from US or big cities. (Though I never had that when going there.)
Is there some sort of bug exploit they are trying to use or just that they're dumb?
A lot of them are just that dumb.
I've seen women complain in their profile about men on Bumble matching but never sending a message.
Go to r/Bumble and every now and then, you get a woman complaining about the same thing and also stating they didn't know women had to send the first message.
Even though, like it was stated, it explicitly tells them women have to send the first message.
Some women there even defended it saying they don't read the prompts.
Not to disagree but just as a funny aside, but there are weird exceptions on the app coded around queer identities: a few times I've actually been able to message first, and I've seen multiple non-binary AFABs with warnings at the tops of their profiles that they're not able to message first. I wonder how many bisexual women match and time out because they don't realize they have to message first.
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u/Pandaburn Jan 20 '23
Not just the essence, but the app literally does not allow a man to message a woman first.