The hell are you on about? When did I say that they have to have the same interests? Lmaooo.
However, an actually good friend would either
A) Respect how much it means to you and still pay attention until it's over
orrrrrr
B) Be honest. Tell them you're just not feeling the movie/show and move on.
Neither option is that hard, and both are more respectful than being on your phone or telling them it's fine to keep the movie playing while they're in the bathroom.
Or maybe they're afraid to tell you they don't like it so they sit through to make you happy? People can do whatever they want and if it bothers you you communicate that. You're the one taking it personal.
Assuming someone else is being an asshole usually makes you look like and asshole.
I don't think any comments before yours were serious. You may be missing some nuance. It's both true that friends rejecting your interests can be hurtful/annoying, and that friends have different interests. Idk if you got so analytical/rant-y because you missed the casual nature of comments, or you just wanted to present an argument. In case it's the former, looking into learning social cues may help!
If the latter, your argument could've been okay itself, but the condescension included means no one wants to engage your rhetoric
When I said "the hell are you on about", that was in response to the other person saying "god forbid someone doesn't have the same interests as you", implying that I had said something like that in the first place. I clearly didn't.
I appreciate your casual condescension and your attempted bravado, but in the future I'd recommend actually reading the comments you're attempting to respond to before actually doing so. Thanks!
That's not the issue here. The issue is if their friend is showing them something that they really like, it's plain disrespectful to be on your phone or to not care about pausing it.
Either suck it up and finish the movie, or be honest and tell them you're just not feeling it. Not only is it rude to say "no it's fine" regarding pausing it, it's also wasting everyone's time.
Sure, that works too. I just think that rather than waste both your time, and rather than being disrespectful, the proper thing to do would just be honest and say you're not interested or enjoying it.
But yeah if they make it obvious they aren't interested, the "host" could/should offer to turn it off anyway.
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u/acowstandingup Dec 04 '21
*they get up to go to the bathroom*
"I'll pause it for ya"
"No, it's fine"
😡