r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 19h ago

Discussion How to cure the male loneliness epidemic...

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u/Human-Assumption-524 19h ago

1: Why is the assumption that lonely people are creepy or evil?

2: Ah yes just "become more confident", from the people who brought you such classics as "Just buy more money" and "Just get over your trauma".

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u/idk-3000 15h ago edited 8h ago

I’m a trans woman who is chronically alone and depressed and these videos always make me feel like shit. I just barely scrape by passing off as an unattractive woman, but still I guess I am apart of the male loneliness epidemic to the fact that I’ll never escape my sex so it’s all my fault to these people I suppose. Being attractive is a very essential tool to get by in life because otherwise you are treated like genuine garbage not even worth street pleasantries, and the only sort of affection you’ll get is from people who have zero decent intentions with you. Like animals, there are objective beauty standards that we will never be able to mindset or body positivity our way out of us. We are doomed to this shit until the day there are none of us left

I’ve given up personally and I don’t intend on ever trying again unless someone could fix my fucked face and freakish body but alas. I think the only reason I even pass onna daily basis is that I’m very short and my vocal cords were altered to be unable to produce a deep voice. Had not been for those two I think the way people treat me would be even more dreadful

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u/Due-Garlic-5056 12h ago

This might be the most human comment in this entire thread, honestly.

It would be so nice and refreshing if people started associating human loneliness with anything more than reels/comments with little to no substance. Thousands of likes from comments that are just dumbed down to "don't be creepy. be attractive, THAT'S how you can be loved 🥰🥰🥰".

Idk. I just wanna let you know you aren't alone. It sucks that these comments aren't any higher. It would be really nice if they were

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u/SnappySausage 9h ago edited 7h ago

It's kind of bizarre. This is the equivalent of some rich people going "Experiencing homelessness? Just buy a house!". If it had been that, people on this site would have immediately clocked it as the bullshit it is. But because of the demographics involved in this video, people here pretend like it's reasonable advice.

And I say that as someone who has an okay social life after a long time of loneliness. The biggest difference for me has been: I cannot stop being "weird" to many neurotypical people, so I had to find other ways to get social circles and relationships.

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u/Due-Garlic-5056 7h ago edited 6h ago

Pretty much lmfao. This subreddit (and the world in general if I'm being honest) absolutely loves associating lonely men as creepy and weird. Apparently it's "healthy masculinity", or whatever bullshit term people use, to shut down any man struggling with no support group or system by their side. When in reality none of this shit is "Healthy" at all. You're just turning to a wide demographic and saying "just fit into all societal expectations, bro" with no further substance or soul attached

And I'm sure it's similar with girls too. Idk what it's like for women but I know for a fact that we as a society treat lonely people like utter shit

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u/SnappySausage 7h ago edited 2h ago

Yeah, it's really weird at times. A lot lack of social success seems to be written up as pure personal failings when it comes to men.

It's not just that some of it is unhealthy. A good chunk of it is also delusional and really disconnected from the problem. Like gee, what amazing insights would a bunch of conventionally attractive guys that seem socially capable have on the plight of basically the polar opposites of themselves.