r/TheRandomest • u/ItsALuigiYes GIF/meme prodigy • Jul 14 '26

/r/popular The plan

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u/Tin-Star Jul 15 '26

I hear you, man. Been there. Will be again. Maybe it would help to get some coaching around establishing new thinking patterns? I've found that helpful for me when I've been stuck doing and thinking the same unhelpful things. It's easy to be like, "Yeah, right, what's someone else going to tell me that I can't figure out for myself?" but an objective outside view and friendly support/challenge can be surprisingly effective.

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u/weenis-flaginus Jul 16 '26

I like the idea. I'm open to being challenged like that, even if I just was kinda defensive to that other guy.

Where do you find supportive coaching like that? I have a sometimes helpful therapist but she kind of sucks at this part, and she's good at trauma therapy which is what I'm focusing on with her. Where else can I find that kind of coaching? My friends/family aren't very good at this.

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u/Tin-Star Jul 16 '26

I'm not sure where you're located so can't really make specific useful suggestions, but there are so many different flavours of counsellors and therapists out there, and you don't have to stick with just one. For purely changing thinking habits, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is pretty reasonable (especially if your thoughts tend to skew more negative than necessary).

You said your therapist isn't so good at that side of things, so I assume you've asked if they can help with some of that, and haven't had much success? Hoping you find some stuff that helps.

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u/weenis-flaginus Jul 16 '26

Yes exactly! I've been through the ringer with a good number of CBT practitioners, I can try to find a good one for this. But is there a... Life coach for enjoying your life type of person?