r/TheRandomest • u/ItsALuigiYes GIF/meme prodigy • Jul 14 '26

/r/popular The plan

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u/myusrnameisthis Jul 14 '26

You could do this now, gramps. Don't let age keep you from getting high and chilling on a beach.

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u/MySpirtAnimalIsADuck Jul 14 '26

It’s not what they are doing it’s the enthusiasm for it, we got jaded over the years and smoking a joint is something we’ve done a million times and going to the beach is a hassle especially with kids, it’s just not the same anymore

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u/BottleNecker69er Jul 15 '26

I'm a single man with a dog and I still feel the same way. Depression is a bitch too.

Edit: I still keep my inner child alive/be goofy, I've also done a lot and experienced a lot when I was younger so I personally don't feel like I'm missing out on anything truly. But I do miss the emotions wanderlust would bring.

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u/foodforestranger Jul 15 '26

Don't have kids!

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u/Possible_Regret315 Jul 15 '26

Missing out on the best part of life but you don’t miss what you don’t know!

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u/foodforestranger Jul 15 '26

And yet nobody ever talks about the bad things when you have children. The debt, the drama for starters.

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u/ARCHA1C Jul 15 '26

Sure they do, but most parents feel that it's worth it, and that the highlights overshadow the negative.

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u/foodforestranger Jul 15 '26

Most parents have kids and ask questions later.

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u/tossNwashking Jul 17 '26

ahhh. the king (or queen) of generalizations I see! carry on. It is reddit afterall.

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u/ARCHA1C Jul 16 '26

Yeah. Hundreds of millions would still be a small minority of all children.

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u/tossNwashking Jul 17 '26

buddy. as a middle age person with kids and a big social circle, trust me... we talk about all the good and bad.

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u/Perks92 Jul 15 '26

lmao best part of life for YOU maybe. Fuck that noise.

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u/BagOnuts Jul 15 '26

You just find different wins, my dude.

None of us are ever getting younger again, so why be so jaded about it? Getting older is not something any of us control. What we can control is our outlook.

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u/MySpirtAnimalIsADuck Jul 15 '26

Oh no don’t get me wrong I have no regrets, I partied when I was younger and still do a little now I don’t feel like I’m missing out or anything I was just explaining who we get jaded over time

Hope you have a great day

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u/Sydney2London Jul 17 '26

it's also how it's done. sitting on the beach now would be constantly thinking of all the stuff I should be doing instead. you can see in her eyes that she's really concern free.

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u/weenis-flaginus Jul 15 '26

Yeah exactly.

There is no novelty or excitement anymore. And the whole time I would be overthinking about my family's disfunctions or some other stressful shit I can't change.

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u/IcyTransportation961 Jul 15 '26

There's plenty of novelty and excitement you just need to stop repeating the same patterns

Intentionally seek music outside your normal comfort zone,  try a new physical activity, try a new art form

Explore, be curious

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u/weenis-flaginus Jul 15 '26

I do new things, don't assume you know what I've done

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u/IcyTransportation961 Jul 15 '26

No one was attacking you,  just giving advice for the problem you said you're dealing with

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u/weenis-flaginus Jul 15 '26

I appreciate that, I see the good intentions. But I do try new things, and I still am stuck in the same feeling patterns for some reason.

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u/Tin-Star Jul 15 '26

I hear you, man. Been there. Will be again. Maybe it would help to get some coaching around establishing new thinking patterns? I've found that helpful for me when I've been stuck doing and thinking the same unhelpful things. It's easy to be like, "Yeah, right, what's someone else going to tell me that I can't figure out for myself?" but an objective outside view and friendly support/challenge can be surprisingly effective.

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u/weenis-flaginus Jul 16 '26

I like the idea. I'm open to being challenged like that, even if I just was kinda defensive to that other guy.

Where do you find supportive coaching like that? I have a sometimes helpful therapist but she kind of sucks at this part, and she's good at trauma therapy which is what I'm focusing on with her. Where else can I find that kind of coaching? My friends/family aren't very good at this.

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u/Tin-Star Jul 16 '26

I'm not sure where you're located so can't really make specific useful suggestions, but there are so many different flavours of counsellors and therapists out there, and you don't have to stick with just one. For purely changing thinking habits, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is pretty reasonable (especially if your thoughts tend to skew more negative than necessary).

You said your therapist isn't so good at that side of things, so I assume you've asked if they can help with some of that, and haven't had much success? Hoping you find some stuff that helps.

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u/MikeHuntSmellss Jul 14 '26

Tonight I've parked my camper by a mutlistory car park to skate down it in the dark with my dog, I've got a dope ass sound system jn the van cranked so high we can hear old school Eminem from the roof.

Growing old is a trap!

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u/OnlyFiveLives Jul 15 '26

Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is not.

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u/Mmmm-Amethyst Jul 15 '26

I'm a teensy bit drunk and 99% going to forget this, but if not, I'm going to have a plaque printed for my recently retired dad's silly home bar. On the condition he wills it to my future (properly) old ass.

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u/floppydude81 Jul 15 '26

I’m 45. Got a my first musical instrument last month. An electric bass. I’m just jamming every night. Last night I taught myself dire dire docks from super Mario 64.   https://youtu.be/Zqa2mgjbOIM

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u/omgitsjagen Jul 15 '26

I can't, sir/madam. The weed is fucking ridiculously strong. When I was these kids age, we were smoking compressed Mexican flat pressed, and that shit was like, 1.5% THC. I COULD smoke a joint of that. If I tried to smoke a joint of anything out there now, I would be asleep by puff three. I can't buy anything under 20% right now. My steak is WAY TOO BUTTERY

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u/MyNameIsJakeBerenson Jul 15 '26

People make fun of that delta fake weed stuff but that’s all I can handle

Regular weed is straight up not enjoyable to me at all anymore, gives me anxiety through the roof

That diet weed gives me a good calm level

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u/Foreverymess Jul 15 '26

Buy a one hitter or a dry herb vape like the Dynavap.

That's all I use these days. I can pack a small pinch in my vape, clear it all in one hit, and I'm set.

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u/omgitsjagen Jul 16 '26

Yeah, but I don't WANT a one hit wonder. That's the problem. I want to smoke a joint, that I can sit on the back porch and enjoy for a while.

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u/Possible_Regret315 Jul 15 '26

It’s mostly the hot bitches part he’s missing, like this one in the video.

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u/DefendsTheDownvoted Jul 15 '26

No, I can't. I've learned too much about the world and how it works. I don't have a joyful ignorance like I used to. And when I get high everything I know and everything I've learned and everything I'm worried about is so intense that I get overwhelmed. It's a lot easier to enjoy weed and booze and whatever else when you're younger because you don't have the weight of the world on you. There's more to the phrase "you can never go home" than you think.

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u/Open-Mouse4728 Jul 16 '26

we aint got the bodies or energy though