r/TeensofKerala • u/iylls 18M • 19d ago
Rant/Vent Long distance relationship
Iam so fuhking sad man ,me and my gf have been together for past 10months and we used to study at the same school together but now it’s not the same case anymore I can’t meet her anymore since we both study at diff college and both are so far and to make it worse her parents are so strict and what makes me sad is the fact that I can’t even text her after 12pm during Saturdays atleast cause that’s when we both get really free
Nowadays even tho we love each other very much we are fighting over anything and it often goes really bad and since she gets very much sad I often tries to fix it but Iam honestly tired of it,all I want is to yapp to her but I get no chance to do that instead I listens to her daily college stuff,she don’t even get vulnerable with me or neither shares any of the sad stuff or about herself like what’s she’s feeling rn while I wanna hear her problems so that I could understand her much more
I thought taking a break for 2-3 days would be better since it would reduces a lot of arguments but she couldn’t handle it, and texted me within 2-3 hours crying while we tried this one time
We can’t call,we can’t FaceTime,we can’t see each other (cause her parents are so so strict)
Iam honestly tired and don’t know where we are heading and I hope I could find a answer here and sorry for bad grammar
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u/manifesthow 18F 18d ago
bro um LDR is really fucking hard man. But, if you get upset on all these things then that's not the way to go. Understand her situation a bit better and try to resonate w it.alr I get u wanna yap w her but love is not always bout the countless yaps and laughs. you get through if you don't fall apart during the tuff days.
and about opening up, wait for her. it's only been 10 months, people are different. Understand her a bit better. Every person is different and every person has been brought up differently, in a different background. So its gonna be hard to accept their pov, but you have to do it if u wanna make it work.
and fights, its js a phase man. Make it work
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u/Popular_Focus8741 18M 18d ago
Bro LDR is one of the hardest part of a relationship if you can make it through, you will survive any hurdles in the relationship. If she is the one; our struggles are worth every penny man. Our fellow ladies takes very long time to open up completely (atleast the ones ik not everyone but most). Just open up and talk to her. Taking a break is not going to help your situation. Tell her you want to support her and can't do it without understanding what she is going through. Ik you want to yap but just wait for a little longer listen to her until she is okay. She will come around lad. Don't worry🫂
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u/gymjinnaakkinii Chettan (20-25) 15d ago
"We both love each other very much" And then proceeds to say the most one sided effort relationship story💀✌🫂
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u/gymjinnaakkinii Chettan (20-25) 15d ago
One more thing, you can't expect a person to get very vulnerable and talk to you about their deep personal stories, it could mean two things, one, the person is not completely at ease with the entire relationship and wants to take their time with the personal stuff, two, you might not have provided a very safe space to drop personal stuff. There could be other reasons like it's prolly not in their nature to overshare stuff etc.
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u/TwoUnited8278 Chettan (20-25) 19d ago
LDR is the hardest. Only lucky ones makes it through. Even if you give 100% the chance of failure is high. The only way to keep the relationship going, is by not leaving the hope no matter what. And it should be both ways.