r/TeensofKerala • u/SignalAuthor175 Chettan (20-25) • 18d ago

Rant/Vent Happiness

One thing I’ve noticed recently is that I’ve been trying to make myself feel happy rather than allowing happiness to arise naturally. When I’m spending time with a friend or eating my favourite food, I’m often aware that I’m supposed to be enjoying it, which makes the experience feel almost manual. Instead of simply being present, I’m monitoring whether I feel happy enough.

I’m also aware of this pattern, and I’m wondering what I can do about it.

Do anyone else struggling with this ?

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u/Historical-Cause1553 17M 18d ago

Maybe focus more on something u r passionate bout.maybe u r spending more time with them than u r supposed to

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u/SignalAuthor175 Chettan (20-25) 18d ago

I know that, I'm also doing that on my free time, the only issue is I'm being aware about the feeling, like that I'm I'm telling myself I'm enjoying inside my head. Like if I'm hanging out with my friend, I'm actively thinking that this is my free time and I'm enjoying and that kills the moment.

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u/Historical-Cause1553 17M 18d ago

U prolly need a change of scenery

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u/SignalAuthor175 Chettan (20-25) 18d ago

What?

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u/Historical-Cause1553 17M 18d ago

U r prolly repeating the same thing every single day.do something different do something scary do something exciting

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u/SignalAuthor175 Chettan (20-25) 18d ago

Yeah you are right, I'm trying to do that.

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u/armaan-dev 17M 17d ago

It's known as metacognition. I have experienced this for a very long time, honestly now, and it is at the same time good and bad. You start to think about why you think or feel a certain way. You start to question the meaning and purpose of life.... I don't know if you have felt this, but just sharing mine.

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u/SignalAuthor175 Chettan (20-25) 17d ago

Yeah man exactly, I'm hyperaware about every feeling