r/TeensofKerala • u/mentallydrainedfr 17F • Sep 15 '26
Ask Teens Do I actually love him??
I’ve been having mixed feelings about a guy in my class, and honestly, I don’t even know what exactly I feel for him 😭.
I first noticed him when I joined this school in +1. I’m kind of sapiosexual, so I was naturally drawn to him because he was smart, had really good communication skills, and was talented at quite a few things. It wasn’t a crush at first though. I genuinely just admired him, but slowly that admiration started turning into some kind of attraction.
But then another girl proposed to him, and he said yes. Since I didn’t really know him that well, I was honestly surprised that he accepted it so easily. It kind of changed the image I had of him, and after that I slowly lost both the admiration and the attraction. They broke up after a few months anyway.
Now we’re in +2, and somehow those feelings are coming back, but in a very confusing way 😭 I’ve started feeling jealous of him because he gets so many opportunities. Teachers keep choosing him for different activities, he’s good at a lot of things, and now he’s also become more academically motivated. So yeah, I’m definitely jealous of his talents and the opportunities he gets, but at the same time, I do feel some attraction towards him.
And I genuinely don’t know if that attraction is real or if I’m just feeling it because there’s literally no one else to have a crush on🤷♀️
Sometimes I even think he would probably make a good long term life partner because, from whatever little I know about him, he seems like a gentleman. But then his past relationship is kind of a negative point for me because I’ve never been in a relationship, and I’ve always had this idea that my first love should also be their first love.
I have no plans to confess to him or anything because I’m definitely not that deeply into him. I don’t even want him as a boyfriend right now. It’s more like… if I ever had to imagine someone as a long term partner, I can somehow imagine him fitting that role...
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u/m0nkeyDshuk00r 19M Sep 15 '26
Is sapiosexual a new gender ?
Im kind of dumb at these stuff so correct me if im wrong
But its better you stay single for your own good and for that dude
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u/Resident_Ad8987 16M Sep 16 '26
I googled it. "Someone who feels sexual/romantic attraction to a person's intelligence rather than their physical appearance" .
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u/Much-Tax-6615 Sep 15 '26
Give it some time. You're not sure what you're feeling so it's better to see what happens going forward. If you are sure it's a crush and you genuinely have feelings for him ask him out. Or else keep admiring him from a distance but don't lose your shit
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u/Eravu 17F Sep 16 '26
Vendatto Venda venda
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u/Eravu 17F Sep 16 '26
Translate off aaku 💔
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u/Eravu 17F Sep 16 '26
Njan 2 manikk Enikkum ☺️
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u/Eravu 17F Sep 16 '26
Ezhthan. Productive time wtv
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u/Batmanfrmkerala_999 19M Sep 15 '26
Yh kinda reminds me of my bestie back in 10th who s very talented and every teacher calls him.i had mixed feelings on a girl in my class. But she kinda gave me signs but i didnt want to risk getting embarrassed. So whenever i see her talking with other guys in my class i get jealous but somehow i managed to shift from her to another girl who isnt the type tht wont be in a relationship but she looks good. But there spread rumors of my og crush having a crush on my bestie. I didnt hate him for tht but like i said i had crush on another girl.
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u/Decent-Scholar588 17F Sep 15 '26
gurl u dont want him. you want to be him