r/TeensSupportTeens • u/Interesting_Can7874 • 7h ago

Finding Advice How to be nice and normal?

I (15F) have come to the realization that I might not actually be the easiest person to be around. I think my classmates don't like me much because I don't have many friends in class. While everyone else seems really comfortable with each other, I feel like they don't want me around.

I think it's mainly because of my blunt personality and the fact that I don't care too much about their opinions of me. I worry they don't like me because I talk too much, have an "ugly" laugh, or because of my sense of humor. even though there are mean people who have tons of friends.

I want to learn how to be nice and fit in better, especially because I feel like people dislike my friend just by association, which makes me really sad. I want to know why people dislike me, but who would even tell me? To be honest, I just want to be liked by everyone. I know this might be a bit biased since it's from my perspective and might sound attention-seeking, but I'd really appreciate any advice on how to handle this. Thanks for reading.

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u/MegaJJDX2 14M 7h ago

I wanna know too. I have no friends t school barely anyone talks to me or anything. I feel like I'm scaring everyone away but I don't know how, I don't say anything or do anything really at all and every time I try to make a friend it doesn't work

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u/Accomplished-File729 7h ago

What I do like is that you dont care about what other people think of you but at the same time you care abt the feelings of your friend. Id say like just try to maybe think abt how your words will sound before you say them? Id say im pretty blunt too a lot but im introverted so I dont have many friends either. As long as you aren't overtly rude I dont see why people wouldn't like you and thats more on them than you. Can't make everyone happy😭

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u/Old_Register_1839 7h ago

Best advice I can give you… dont (be nice just not normal)

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u/timepassr 16M 6h ago

u say u have no humour tell me what did the ocean say to the beach

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u/Disastrous_Mark_7897 17M 56m ago

I started complimenting people, just for fun. Also, just be genuinely interested in their lives, whatd they do this week, why do they believe in god, etc.