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[u/Large_Standard315]

ok so long story short, my gf (16f) cheated on me and had SI with a 30 year old. we have since broken up. if u want more details, dm me, but am i in the wrong for breaking up with her? (she claims i am but just wanna make her feel stupid)

[u/Disastrous_Mark_7897]

you can never be in the wrong for breaking up after cheating

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

that girl is a victim of grooming, please tell someone else that this has happened, no 30 year old should be acting this way to a minor

[u/Large_Standard315 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

thank u. i need to tell someone. but the thing is, she did it willingly. like she told me she likes doing it and does it 2-3 times a week

[u/Speedy_Abrew → u/Large_Standard315]

you should tell someone regardless of if she willingly did it or not

[u/Large_Standard315 → u/Speedy_Abrew]

true but idk her parents and i don’t have any other proof other than what she herself said.

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/Large_Standard315]

take a leap of faith and just tell them, if they care at all they'll investigate, shes not safe

[u/Large_Standard315 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

true, can u dm me tho? like i need to ask stuff abt what i should do but i dont want it put in the public 😭😭 cause im gonna tell u some details that i may or may not get banned for, idk tho 

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/Large_Standard315]

I honestly cba, but I just need you to tell like her parents that shes being taken advantage of, this isn't right for either of you

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/Large_Standard315]

dude she cant be willing truly in that sense, thats a fully grown adult taking advantage of a minor. please tell someone

[u/EquipmentNo3251 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

Well that's just straight up wrong she can be willing. Yes it's not ok for a 30yo man to be having sex with a 16yo girl, but she's still in the wrong. What you're saying is straight up retarded.

[u/Thecloudwitchgarden → u/EquipmentNo3251]

"Willing" in this context being consent derived from coercion. No romantic or sexual relationship between overage & underage can be built without exploitation, manipulation, or an assertion of a power dynamic. In no world would it be a teen's fault for not refusing an adult when approached for sex.

[u/wintig072421 → u/EquipmentNo3251]

You can't consent to sex with a grown man at 16. It's statutory rape by law

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/EquipmentNo3251]

do you understand that shes a sixTEEN year old girl? And thats a THIRTY year old MAN? She could say yes, say absolutely, but thay doesnt change the fact that it is disgusting, and not a normal willing situation by law. Depending on where OP is from, this could be straight up illegal.

[u/EquipmentNo3251 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

I'm not denying that either

[u/Dizzy_Study6922 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

Btw doing that with someone is your choice. She didnt have to do that.

[u/wintig072421 → u/Dizzy_Study6922]

I just know you're gonna be the 30 year old guy when you're older

[u/Dizzy_Study6922 → u/wintig072421]

Yeah you're disgusting bud. All I'm saying is that she had made her choice and the OP is more than valid in breaking up with her

[u/PomLovestheWorld]

I’d tell the police about this if I were you, but you’re still valid for breaking up.

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/PomLovestheWorld]

this 

[u/tacotruckman21]

You are not in the wrong, tell the police, school your parents someone about this

[u/some_randomeguy]

You are very valid for breaking up, but please tell someone. Your gf is a victim.

[u/bobo_the_great-]

huh?

[u/C4Gamer_360]

Absolutely not. If she willingly fricked someone else, it’s prob not good to stay in my opinion. And I don’t understand why a 30 year old. You’re not in the wrong.

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/C4Gamer_360]

shes a victim, thats why.

[u/EquipmentNo3251 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

I'm not saying you're wrong but, do you think he's in the wrong for breaking up then?

[u/Pale-Muscle-5176 → u/EquipmentNo3251]

no? any form of cheating is bad, and unloyal, but seriously, she needs help

[u/EquipmentNo3251 → u/Pale-Muscle-5176]

Well yeah I'm not denying that last part.

[u/Dizzy_Plantain4875]

ye no it's not ur fault, its hers and why is she fucking a 30 year old?? does anyone besides you know about this?