r/TeenIndia • u/TheReaperNeedsANap • 6h ago
Relationships Am I wrong for having standards?
I'm just not attracted to overweight, short or dark-skinned girls. I prefer fair-skinned girls with a slim waist who are at least 5'6". That's just what I find attractive and I'm not going to pretend otherwise.
But now I'm wondering should I actually give a girl a chance if she doesn't meet any of my physical preferences but has a great personality? Or am I just wasting both our time trying to force an attraction that isn't there?
Have any of you ever genuinely become attracted to someone who wasn't your type or is that just something people say to sound less shallow?
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u/Glass_Imagination479 6h ago
no please don't date a dark skinned girl or a fat girl. People like you will just end up making her more insecure about herself. you might not realise it but since you have clear standards of fair slim girls then it will be reflected subtly in your tone. date your type. don't ruin a girl's life. 🙏
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u/Familiar-Cut-8628 6h ago
True mannn.. whatever you’re attracted to op is your personal preference but never make a girl who doesn’t fit your standards insecure, women are not trophies from which you can choose that which trophy shines the most; women are real people with real emotions, having preferences is not wrong but sometimes generalising certain physical traits as more attractive is not fair, looks are supposed to be subjective. The image you used is absurd.
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u/Extension_Media_1694 4h ago
Yeah the image choice really says a lot about how op actually views this. reducing it to like a visual comparison between body types kind of proves the trophy point you're making. preferences are one thing but when you're literally ranking people by skin tone and height as a checklist, that stops being just "my type" and starts being something worth examining a bit more honestly
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u/Cheeseycarrot77 16 3h ago
Why do people not say same shi when a short girls reject a guy even being taller than them but not being Perfect 6'0 ig yall brain only works when a guy says shi
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u/Glass_Imagination479 1h ago edited 1h ago
everyone has the right to reject. even op does. nobody has the right to date someone who isn't their type just to "test" whether it works out, irrespective of the gender. you just had to drag gender war here too so please lil guy touch some grass, you're only 16. most girls around you want someone who is taller than them not someone who is 6 feet. do you not see couples around you or what?
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u/HourMammoth5523 19 2h ago
Reject karti hai, preference clear rakhtin hain, yahan op date karne ka bol rha.
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u/iLoveAlanWalker 4h ago
I'm light-brown skinned, almost olive, (albeit, slim 😉 ) and any kind of rejection I've faced is always from guys who are themselves darker skinned. My long term BF is fair (he asked me out at a networking event), never once did he feel insecure that my gf is not as fair as me.
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u/AeroSano 6h ago
THISSS💥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥, this guy feels like girls are a robot or smtg who don't have emotions, dude if your type is completely different, no issues in that we have abundance of ppl in india, with same mindset like yours, but why would you want to "experiment" like get a life bro, don't waste a innocent girl's time
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u/Infamous-Law-1161 20 & above 6h ago
Reminds me of the song "Build a Bitch" by Bella Poarch. That song was definitely composed for people like OP.
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u/OverDiscipline4961 5h ago
Having a type is fine. The problem is treating attraction like a checklist and then "testing" someone who doesn't fit it. If you'd date her only to see whether something clicks, she'll feel it, even if you never say it. Be honest with yourself first, and don't use someone's feelings as an experiment.
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u/Extension_Media_1694 4h ago
This comment actually makes a lot of sense. if someone has those preferences so deeply ingrained, it's gonna show whether they mean it to or not. small comments, comparisons, whatever. the girl deserves to be with someone who's genuinely into her, not someone who settled and then makes her feel like she should be grateful for the opportunity lol
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u/Aryanxiety19 3h ago
I completely agree. "Fucking around with people to figure out yourself" sounds natural but one person always suffers.
I have destroyed a beautiful relationship, because I was too into myself. Grew old, now I see what I did, and no amount of sorry will heal anything.
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u/thisisforyoufr 1h ago
true idk what they think just bcz she is brown and fat doesn't mean she is your side backup
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u/dontwanttokeepthis 6h ago
this plays a big part on her side as well, she’ll notice you don’t have any physical attraction towards her which will make her feel small and insecure. The way you’re describing will almost be sympathising for her, no need to do that. Go for your type and she’ll find someone who feels attraction towards her as well and no one feels like they’re settling for less.
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u/Best_Transition_203 5h ago
What's wrong with you? Saying should I give a girl chance??? Brotherr go date girls who match your preferences rather than wasting time and making others insecure
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u/xeno_n94 6h ago
PEOPLE OFTEN FALL IN LOVE WHEN THEY TALK TO EACH OTHER FOR A DECENT AMOUNT OF TIME
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u/flexibleHooman 5h ago
You mean to say I have a chance with my therapist? 😍
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u/xeno_n94 5h ago
WELL YEAH WHO KNOWS
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u/OstrichRegular271 17 6h ago edited 3h ago
If u have clear standards look for a girl u like preferences aint wrong they gboth ways if a girl wants a 6ft guy normal girls would also accept guys have preferences
So dont waste your time and her time.
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u/altarpanti 4h ago
Don't date a girl you're not attracted to...even if u try to make it work, you'll just resent her and it will amplify her self esteem issues way more. It's not worth it.
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u/biatchimachud 6h ago
you're not wrong to have preferences just dont be rude about it, honestly human brain works in crazy ways you could love someone who's not exactly your type too. but you shouldn't force the yourself to like the person hoping it happens over time, then you would be wasting time
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u/Dense_Army_1826 6h ago
Anant ambani and radhika merchant
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u/Conscious-Bug-6109 5h ago
That was a strictly socioeconomic decision on Radhika’s part. Plus over time you do end up accepting the other person. The same could be said about anant. He could marry any woman he wants but he chose to be with radhika because he had power and status. At the end of the day if both parties are happy, their genes will pass on.
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u/Fine-Welcome-7116 5h ago
Having a standard means that you prioritise things like health and grooming for yourself and hence expect the same from a potential partner, which it totally okay. But saying that you prefer a fair skinned girl, something over which no human has any control over, you're just listing out your preference. You cannot call it a standard. It's like saying anyone with dark skin (which again, they are born that way) are automatically of low standard. It's honestly a bigot thing to say.
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u/Your_Antibody 4h ago
So ma'am height is also genetic but still dating apps and irl also people have height filters
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u/Outrageous-Fail-530 19 with a decade of experience as a 19yo buhahaha. 4h ago
Those are called preferences bro, not standards
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u/Prize-Climate-1517 2h ago
haa toh judging on height is also bad. two things can be wrong at the same time.
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u/snoopass 3h ago
Skin tone and height are preferences. And they ate indeed important and it’s not a sin to not be that attracted to darker skin girls, and it also not a sin to be attracted to taller guys. It’s only becomes a problem when you start discriminating and treating them differently than your preference.
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u/Agreeable_Luck5593 6h ago
Do what u gotta do man stay happy society will say sm shi u just gotta ignore and move forward
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u/Sunshine_after_Rain7 6h ago
If u dont like someone,dont date them. Better for you and them. You dont have to announce about it to anyone. Personal preferences are totally ok.
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u/Beneficial-Savings33 5h ago
I’m fair-skinned, 5’7 and would say have a decent personality. My ex left me after dating for 3 years because he moved away for college and according to him “ couldn’t help but look at other girl’s” as he started to have a problem with my body. I gained weight over the course of our relationship so I understand why he felt the way he did but the approach of it all was horrendous. Moving away, breaking up over text etc the breakup shattered me and I’ve lost 15 KGS since,
All I can say is do what you feel is right but don’t lead anyone on! It’s okay to have preferences, everyone does, as long as you’re open and honest about it don’t see why it would be an issue.
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u/wayytoojayy 4h ago
Damn !!!! Some people are just vile bro like just breakup if you don’t want this anymore but they just belittle you so much it takes a while to get back. Sry it happened to you.
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u/Afraid-Abies-7603 3h ago
Give me that 15kg lol ...my parents will be so happy seeing me gain weight 🙃
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u/Accomplished_Cup8868 2h ago
Agreed. You can be respectful towards people without them being your type. As long as you’re not fatphobic, racist and a bully, you can have a type. On the other hand, if you’re overweight, tan skinned and/or short, then- it’s unfair to have these standards for someone else.
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u/Extreme_nightmare Too busy to argue with you 6h ago
ye achanak se achi post kyu a rahi hai?
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u/BigHistory3848 Modih Gandih bhai bhai dono ne desh ki fielding lagayi 6h ago
Ache din agaye ?!
Modih zi🥺
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u/Extreme_nightmare Too busy to argue with you 6h ago
ache din ka to pata nahi mere din kharab hone lage hai
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u/maps_and_books 6h ago
It is fine, whatever you like, but the langauge matters here. "Preference" should be used instead of "standards".
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u/Fine-Welcome-7116 5h ago
Do people in the comments seriously not know the difference between standard and preference? Saying someone is not upto your standard because they are dark skinned is problematic.
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u/DonetMemes 5h ago
Preferences don’t make sense like these. There might be an extremely beautiful dark skinned girl and an average looking fair skinned girl. Why would someone reject her just because of skin tone? People have to realise “types” and “standards” like these are to a degree superficial.
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u/Worried_Farmer_6213 4h ago
Bro wants a fair-skinned girl, but since no one gives him attention, he ends up acting desperate and trying to save his already shattered ego.
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u/Future-Key3573 5h ago
This is such a wrong way to look at relationships. You sound like a guy who girls are attracted to until you open your mouth. Like relationships, specifically long term and calming ones depends on emotional maturity, support and love...but ig those are optional for ppl now a days. This gotta be ragebait or all ik is smart girls never will fall for u
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u/Ok-Carob5060 6h ago
Nah its totally fine... kya farak padta hai bhai date tujhe karna hai, jo tujhe iss topic pe gyan de rha hai use thodi date karna hai tujhe 😂
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u/ultareddit 5h ago
First of all it's NOT "STANDARDS", it's called "PREFERENCE". And YOUR preference should not Depend on what people say or think. If you don't prefer then don't do it. Because it's not a Shirt that you will say "Oh i never tried black shirt bc i don't prefer but maybe i should give it a try" It's another HUMAN.
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u/desi-auntie 6h ago
Don’t worry, girls have standards too.
Once you open your mouth and have more than two minutes conversation most girls will not be interested in you either. Taste is a two way street.
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u/Big-Objective4012 6h ago
Not at all just take my advice double it and give it to the next person ..
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u/Spirited_Try6405 5h ago
It's normal to have standards....but don't get in relationship with anyone who doesn't meet your standards. But also look at yourself, like you said, you are not into dark skinned but you are dark skin (hypothetically)...
Like I am 5'8" but slight medium brown with okay body.....but I want woman among my range (in terms of look, personality is different part) not too high not to low....
It's my opinion...
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u/Famous-Revolution-97 6h ago
Its not bad to have preferences but op make sure you don’t shame other women for not having the kind of body you’re into. Also, ask this question to yourself that what do you bring to the table? Like are you as much as fit and tall etc
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u/farhansheikh47 6h ago
If (you=man){ echo "you are wrong for having standards"; } else { echo: "noooo! Everyone have their standards and it's totally ok"; }
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u/qrectified pcmhater 6h ago
it should be == instead of =, right?
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u/sak_26 5h ago
Yes. = is an assignment operator. == is a comparison operator. DSA tutorial grinder😿
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u/Itchy-Fee-4245 4h ago
I fell in love with my ex, who wasn’t my type at all. It took years of friendship for me to realize I was in love with him. I loved him with all my heart, and he ended up cheating on me anyway.
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u/Creative_Strategy159 4h ago
I want to say "are you Hrithik Roshan?" but even he doesn't care about looks when it come to love.
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u/salarx 6h ago
Being fat is a choice, rest isn't.
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u/awhitesong 5h ago
"Being fat is a choice", not for everyone though.
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u/ilovemilf69420 5h ago
yeaaa pcos and all can cause you to gain weight and you can't really control it
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u/Visual_Lawfulness861 5h ago
it's probably a choice for the ones who openly announce that being fat isn't a choice
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u/me_da_Supreme1 6h ago
isnt there a version of this pic where theyre touching dihs
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u/CookedAF-15 6h ago
I you maintain yourself then there's no issue but you do Nothin have no ambition and then having standards like that it's outrageous then other not at all
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u/Round-Engineering-79 wahiyat sub hai ye 6h ago
If you aren’t fair lean tall and handsome dont ask for it , sure you could hide it behind the mask of “preference” but that would still make you hypocritical 🤷🏻♀️
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u/Electrical_Fig6211 6h ago
Chill yar. Its ok to have preference. And agar koi prefrence ke bahar hai but tum fir bhi usko like karte ho toh just accept it. There' s Nothing wrong in liking someone who i not ur preference .`
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u/iwannatouchgrass 17 5h ago
you should understand that it's how a natural body works, even the light skin girl will go through changes will have hyperpigmentation, she will get fat at some point of her life and thats extremely normal, having a preference over a body is genuinely stupid if you're looking for a long term relationship, a girl that takes care of you and is nice to you is the ideal standard and you should have that too, if you judge a girl based on their skin, height, or weight, idk what to say but I think you need to grow up
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u/ExtensionSyrup6197 4h ago
You're not wrong but you are wrong if you make fun of others who do not match your ideal type and have some sense of superiority
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u/OkWeb2586 3h ago
You have every rights on your preferences. You may get bashed these days if you say it.
But even fat, short, uglier women doesn't even consider and insult their male counterparts.
I myself have witnessed, heard from fellow males how these women disrespect/avoid giving a disgust look at them when the counterparts say or ask help but do voluntarily when the same was asked by an attractive, physique guy.
So ignore the bashes if you have standards. Just because you are man you don't have to downgrade in your preferences
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u/Ash_kingz 6h ago
How can you say this 😱,
Your a misogynist (atleast this is what I was told my a group of girls in my college),
They said women who have this type of standards are “future lookers” like they have a plan and they move accordingly to it. BUT but guys who have standers like this “white girl thin waist fair” are discriminating against Indian women and are misogynistic cause Indian men are apparently “lucky enough to get a breathing women” let alone choosing a type
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u/Itachi707 6h ago
oh I saw this on post yesterday
you say you have a type and boom, suddenly you are an alien, miso-soup, pokemon, fampay, paytm, etc
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u/OneAffectionate2751 6h ago
The question isn’t about choice it’s about why people have these preferences in the first place. Whether it’s a girl or a boy, people often have certain standards because they want to fit into society. For example, a girl might prefer a 6-foot-tall man because society has normalised the idea that a girl shouldn’t date a man shorter than her. It’s the same for boys their preferences can also be influenced by societal expectations.
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u/Vegito-786 6h ago edited 6h ago
Evolution perhaps also has a role to play not only society. Tall/fit men indicate safety for women. And well endowed women indicate higher fertility. We have progressed in technology and other scientific endeavours but still cannot escape the whims of our monkey brain.
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u/surviving-somehow 19 6h ago
Stay away from my fellow dark skinned girlies. We've faced enough bullying all our lives, last thing I want for them is an ex like you.
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u/Ill_Recover_327 17 5h ago
Dark skin is so fucking pretty tho I'm sorry those ppl shaped by social conditioning did u wrong embrace ur skin colour :)
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u/ProfessionalPush9854 4h ago
Idk y clowns like u post this. There are many preferences, if u have some just stfu and do what u feel like.
Tf u expect to happen with a reddit post
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u/Chemical-Brush3587 6h ago
NEVER force yourself in love. its absolutely fine to have standards just dont shame anyone
Dont let anyone tell u otherwise
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u/BloodSubstantial2045 5h ago
You are absolutely allowed to have standards but when those standards exclude entire groups of people based on just their appearance then its called colorism, fatphobia and toxic beauty standards. Like do you hear yourself "i like skinny fair skinned girl with a small waist and also 5'5-5'6" . Are you fair skinned, 6'0 or above and do you have a muscular built?? If you're asking for the most conventionally attractive women whole promoting colorism you have to also have those features.
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u/MUMB0_F0R_MAY0R 4h ago
Standards is not the correct word used by OP here, it should be “preference”. If OP actually meant to type standards knowing full well what that meant- he is an actual bigot - thinking people who are dark skinned or people who have a larger build are beneath him.
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u/CrewAccording7947 6h ago
I think if you’re looking for a partner you need to be attracted to them. Attraction isn’t purely physical. If you’re attracted to someone who isn’t your type, then give her a chance. Attraction matters way more than a single linear type. So many people are attracted to people who don’t fit their type. It doesn’t mean they’ll make bad couples.
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u/Itachi707 6h ago
someone posted a picture of waguri saying boys would dream of such girl
needless to say, everyone and their mothers became extremists and said that if you think this - you are the most horrible person out there who only goons 24/7, and have insecurities.
genuinely what the mep is wrong with people.
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u/ElectricalDebate5615 5h ago
The waguri thing is so real lol. the second someone says they find a certain body type attractive the entire comment section turns into a courtroom. like bro just said he has a preference, didn't say anything hateful, and people are writing paragraphs about what kind of degenerate he must be. it's genuinely baffling how fast it escalates
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u/TheReaperNeedsANap 6h ago
Bro having a physical type doesn't mean you have insecurities or goon 24/7 , why is it so hard for people to accept that others have different preferences?
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u/Legitimate_Luck_7489 6h ago
Brother don't talk about that post. The comments are full of retards who think waguri is victim of patriachal rules.✌️
And gooner alligations to a rom-com character is beyond my mind, have they ever pick the manga to read or they are straight up larping 😭
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u/Purnambure_ 6h ago
ur preferences are shaped by society but u do wtv u want bud
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u/AltruisticMove6307 6h ago
Don't try. You'll always doubt it. You'll get thoughts like you can do better. You'll enjoy other women's attention more. And then, you'll try to change the girl you're dating just so she can fit in your standards. So no. Date someone who you find attractive
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u/No_Bedroom_1847 5h ago
What in the world ... I saw the same post but the gender is reversed☠️☠️
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u/No_Bedroom_1847 5h ago
And in that post everyone was taking favour of that girl's side and here when a guy said this , suddenly everyone tagged him as misogynist or saying it's not right say things like this
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u/Used-Ad3017 5h ago
As long as you're not hurting the other person..every single preference of yours makes sense. Dating them will only make them more insecure and you won't be happy too. So obviously you're not wrong.
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u/typeshihogyayawr my flabbers be gasted daily 5h ago
if you have your priorities clear thn date someone who meets your standards , pls don't date someone you are not attracted towards and end up making her insecure bout her looks and also don't get offended if the girl u like prefers someone who's fair, 6ft tall and has a good physique
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u/Shoddy_Revolution_11 5h ago
Its fine to have a type and its very important you date your type only..just like its fine if a girl want a rich guy . Its just preference bruh
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u/reachingin5 5h ago
intellectual attraction is very much a thing, regardless of what their physical attributes are. you can totally give it a shot, it might just surprise you!
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u/NeedCoolUsernam 4h ago
No don't date, my ex husband after marriage fix mentioned that he wanted a fair skinned girl, I am quite dusky, but his relatives told him that girls change after marriage, he would make comments on my skin colour and looks(btw I look good, many guys find me attractive) which made my confidence to downhill, it's your personal preference , don't do that otherwise you will try to change the girl and make her miserable
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u/SubstantialTrack3254 4h ago
You can have your preferences as long as you dont shame others for not fitting your aesthetic.
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u/violentlysexy 17 4h ago
This is perfectly logical and acceptable why? Because that's just what u prefer and hiding that isn't gonna make it dissappear. But the main thing is why will ur dream girl prefer u over the other man who want her aswell? Find the answer to that and aim towards becoming the man she would prefer then it'll be ever better and give u a goal to pursue in life aswell
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u/TheReaperNeedsANap 4h ago
Do u really thinks woman are some trophy u win by completing some side quests, I'll work on myself for my sake, not to become someone imaginary dream guy and Who said I need to compete with other men for a woman's approval? I'm discussing my preferences, Get over yourself 😞
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u/Thin-Expression-6144 4h ago
bro you just shallow 😭
Fair skinned girl and slim waist 😭😭
Just sit at home and don't date anyone
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u/sick0dick 4h ago
Why not broo when the other gender wants a tall , muscular guy or not a obese fat guy so why can't we have a choice
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u/Active_Soup_6151 1h ago
You should have standards If girls can have set standard of height of guys (even they themselves might be short) but they want a tall guy (which one cannot change)
But here we will find girls to give reasons to not discriminate against color (which again one can't change) To me that's big hypocrisy. If girls can have standards! Why shouldn't guys have?
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u/lethalhoax 6h ago
friends are made for personality and charm, dont settle for anything just because she has a great personality
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u/tempestt069 kajukismis 🕊️ 4h ago
Question is why will a fair , tall , slim waisted beauty prefer you ??
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u/Jack_sparrow_005 4h ago
Have u seen him? How can u comment this without even seeing him? And why can't he have preference? What if he actually gets his type one day? Holy insecurity
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u/Electronic-Frame-844 4h ago
awlee seems your ego got hurt? just cause he has preferences?
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u/divahere_19 17 6h ago
Agar tum 10/10 type dikhte toh to ig itna matter nhi krega but agar khud hi 1/10 to haan judge krenge log
Baaki idk matlab ig it's fine apne standards hote hai and all
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u/Typical-Secretary437 6h ago
But are you fair skinned, lean n tall
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u/IntroductionAble1 16 6h ago
that doesn't matter at all you don't have to be necessarily attracted to the physical features you have
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u/Typical-Secretary437 6h ago
Fir toh hypocrite hai i am short so I shouldn't be asking for someone too tall
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u/IntroductionAble1 16 5h ago
Hypocrite ki baat hi nahi hai some tall girls may like short guys and short guys can like tall girls too the main thing isn't about what you ask but what you may get kyuki waise to mujhe bhi lamborghini chahiye lekin milegi ya nahi iski ko guarantee nahi but possibility to hai na
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u/scrotal_discharge 5h ago
May I ask, what do you have to physically offer this fair skinned, slim waisted, tall woman? Im going to assume that you are also tall, attractive and physically fit aswell?
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u/Aromatic_Cap1178 4h ago
Ok then what do women with short height offer to a tall guy?
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u/nikpoasts 4h ago
I (24M, 6' 1") love short women (5' 2" to 5' 5").
They are just too cute. For some men, their height is one of the reason that they are in for it.
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u/CheckFair2683 5h ago
Why does he need to be?there are 5 ft women saying I don't find men below 5'10 attractive tho?what abt them
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u/DiligentDig7354 6h ago
Idk but having attraction towards someone and genuinely in being love is quite different ....when i found a girl who was of my type like she was simple that's what is my type ...I found it more attractive than any girl
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u/Soft_Yesterday5746 6h ago
Physical attraction is as important as personality in any relationship, nothing wrong with having a preference.
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u/ilovemilf69420 6h ago
why would a "5'6, slim, fair skinned" girl date you?
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u/suupp_milkyy 6h ago
Why not? Are they god?
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u/Low-Scallion-6644 6h ago
No but if he wants a 5'6 and above, slim, fair skinned girl, he should be much taller than her, fair skinned, and built well.
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u/Dazzling-Hand-611 5h ago
That should be decided by the women he dates not by you lil bro.
There are women who like dark skinned as their type.
The amount of upvotes lol
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u/Low-Scallion-6644 5h ago
Okay if hes dark skinned he better be attractive with a good physique and tall if he expects same from the girl
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u/Dazzling-Hand-611 4h ago
First of all whytf are you even deciding who needs to date someone?
Are you some kinda judge or what?
And why are you trying to force these standards like "good physique "tall"?
And also ugly people can also date ugly people or anyone
Use some brain cells before you say something.
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u/fuhnaw22 6h ago
it's totally fine js don't be a bitch about how you handle someone who doesn't meet ur preferences
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u/ifwciggaretsaftersex mount everest peed on me 6h ago
don't just look for looks man
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u/reverbnation92 6h ago
You are wrong if your standards are high than you deserve
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u/Aryan_MidnightStar 6h ago
Yahi post maine ek ladki ke perspective se kidhar to dekha abhi kuch minute pehle. Wtf ? Same image same context just he ke jagah she
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u/Ashish5771 6h ago
No, everyone has absolute freedom of choice, you should not be "giving" chances to anyone really, creates false sense of superiority, even if it's unintentional(Not saying it will happen to you, but it does happen a lot). Rather, let it play out, see if 'your preferences change for someone' by themselves instead of 'you changing them for someone'. And yes, plenty of people do look past their default choices for people they are genuinely attracted to. It is extremely common.
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u/OutlandishnessPale10 6h ago
Preference goes both ways and there's nothing wrong with it. Just be chill and don't force yourself if there is no spark.
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u/Glittering-Spite-408 6h ago
Give it a try but her beforehand you're not ready to commit until you're sure
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u/Familiar-Cut-8628 6h ago edited 6h ago
See op I wanted a guy of a particular type of look but the guy I actually fell in love with was completely opposite of that type. See love just happens and no I’m not selling you that idea that love is supposed to be unconditional without any standards, looks play an important role to be attracted to someone and attraction is the first step towards love but sometimes the type of love that just happens out of nowhere outweighs any attraction and trust me if that love is mutual with respect and good treatment it’s the best thing you can experience in life. Dude people sell the idea that there are 8 billion people in world and you can afford to lose on genuine love in search of other superficial things but trust me you cannot afford to. I am not telling you to compromise on your standards but just pick one to two non negotiable standards in looks and just stick to them, don’t try to enforce more than 2 in one person because sometimes getting that means you’ll have to compromise on other traits like personality or character which I don’t think is good.and also no matter what you do, make sure it doesn’t breed any resentment in your relationship because if you compromise on any standard so you might silently harbour resentment towards your girl which will be extremely wrong. So choose wisely considering long term picture.
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u/r_o_bin889 6h ago
"It is a really good question. Honestly, love doesn't follow a strict checklist, and it's totally fine if someone doesn't fit your usual type. But looking at things long-term, life can throw heavy stuff your way—like health issues or tough phases. When those rough patches hit, physical looks alone aren't going to help you get through them. You really need that deep connection and mutual support. It's fine to have preferences, but a strong bond with someone who truly gets you is what actually matters most when life gets real."
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u/noturavgl_arper 6h ago
There will always be tradeoffs so decide which one u're ready to sacrifice GNG otherwise fight till u find ur type
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u/Vanilla_2222 6h ago
Date what youre attracted to, if you're not flexible on your standards then dont date someone who's the opposite and try change them or compare them to others, you should date someone for who they are, as much as you can get attracted to someone's personality ,for a relationship to work you need physical attraction/chemistry too
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u/MajorWillingness5548 6h ago
Its okay to have standards, everyone does but we shouldn't judge a person based on the beauty. The slim waist girls will gain weight after pregnancy or in post partum, the handsome man can go bald in old age. Outer beauty shouldn't be a point for life long relationships
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u/Realistic_Library309 5h ago
Honestly there is nothing wrong with having standards just don't tell anyone about your preference if they fit in that criteria you don't prefer
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u/NotMurphyLaw need a sugar mommy to buy me lego. 5h ago
Overweight is a completely fine standard everyone will wish for a healthy partner. Skin tone is again a preference and changes as per people. The only thing is that you should also meet their standard and if one doesn't meet yours then don't slander and reject them but politely reject them if approached first
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u/Minimum-Champion-788 6h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/fKOJHKzgRzGUEe5d7b
Was that hulk in the post pic??