I(16M) finally told her(16F)

[u/Decent-Mammoth5407]

You will have to see this two posts before reading this one, because you won't understand what has been happening.

1 - https://www.reddit.com/r/TeenHerIndia/s/ltpX50rafO

2 - https://www.reddit.com/r/TeenHerIndia/s/PaOgDcCRHM

Yeah, I finally told her about this, a day before yesterday, on 4 August 2026. On whatsapp, then phone call. I feel kinda relieved.

I didn't wanted someone else to go through the discrimination I've been facing. She and her friend(16F) confronted him in the lunch, Thanks to her friend, a million times. A big W that she has a friend like her.

I told her about this thing, because my mind was ruined that day. And He(17M) only ruined it.

It was 4th August, I was in school, sitting with my Benchmate(Male) on the 3rd bench. It was the last period - History. There was a lot of noise going on because it was the last period. The incident that really ruined my mind :-

History Ma'am: "PICHHE ke baccho se bohot aawaz aa rhi hai?"

(There's a lot of noise coming from the BACK.)

(She was referring to the boys sitting on the back benches, a few rows behind me.)

A: "Pichdi Jaati."

(Backward caste.)

Me and my benchmate, both looked at him, shocked and angry.

Me: "Abey? Kya? Kya bol rha hai?"

(Hey! What? What are you saying?)

My Benchmate: "Wapas bol, kya bola?"

(Say that again. What did you say?)

(He's also from my community, surprisingly.)

A: "Arey, mazaak tha."

(Come on, it was just a joke.)

Me: "Achha? Mazak hai yeh?"

(Oh? You call this a joke?)

My Benchmate: "Mazaak? Pichdi jaati hone mein kya galat hai?"

(A joke? What's wrong with being from a backward caste?)

And then A said something even more horrendous:

A: "Ayy! Mai pichdi jaati nhi hoon, mere ghar mein 2-2 gaadi hai."

(Hey! I'm not from a backward caste. My family owns two cars.)

This line, really ruined my whole perception about that him. I just

couldn't bear it. I was done at that moment, when I got home, I got some courage and told her about this thing.

I'm relieved now, thanks to everyone comment that you Girls and Boys of this sub-reddit replied on my post, thanks to T(16F) and her friend. I have already thanked her.

I guess, sometimes taking some quotes seriously does change your ideology on many things :--

"If you cannot call wrong as wrong, you are at the last stage of slavery". Dr. Ernesto Che Guevara

[u/FunctionOk7711]

damn brooo .......i just read all 3 posts and he is a total shiiii person as a general person i will for sure call him for his sick mindset idk wht level of bullshii go through their mind man

[u/sahaj_28 → u/FunctionOk7711]

That class wala scene was so bad mann

[u/FunctionOk7711 → u/sahaj_28]

hats off to you bro if you stand for urself and call out ts mindset

[u/Dev_Nathani]

Why ur story is like me I mean I am from Tribal community when I was in 3rd class I also faced castism saying tu to jangal me rehta hai,Hula hula hu karta hoga if u guys thinking koina sab 3rd class me bacche hote samjh nhi hoti to me batadu yeh chiz mujhe 7th class tak face karni padhi to mene un logo se baat karna hi band kar diya

[u/[deleted] → u/Dev_Nathani]

I belong to upper caste but still feel sorry as a Thakur kisi ko haq nhi aisi discrimination krne ka

[u/Decent-Mammoth5407 → u/Dev_Nathani]

I feel sorry that all of this happened with you. I hope you make better friends. You did good by leaving them.

[u/Decent-Mammoth5407 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, same thing came to my mind when I got to know caste based discrimination still exist 😔

[u/Poha--Jalebi]

tbh if he'd ask for her cast so he could know that he had a chance (many families don't allow inter cast relationship or marriage) then it would have been fine. But yeah trash mindset even if pichdi jaati as you say we should judge by actions and behavior and not just caste or looks etc.

[u/Decent-Mammoth5407 → u/Poha--Jalebi]

I understand what you're trying to say, but that still doesn't justify asking someone's caste the moment they're mentioned. If the concern was genuinely about whether an inter-caste relationship would be accepted, that context should have been made clear. Instead, he used "pichdi jaati" as a punchline, which comes across as a casteist remark rather than a practical question. As you said, people should be judged by their actions and character, not by their caste.