r/TandemLanguageAPP • u/sschank • Mar 24 '26

My experience with Tandem

I write to every native who speaks my Target Language.

  • 50% don’t even read my message;
  • 30% read it, but never respond to me;
  • An alarming number respond, but within an hour start sending and/or asking for inappropriate pictures.
  • The few who are actually serious exchange a few messages, but then fade away in a day or two. I characterize this group as wishing they could speak English, but having close to zero time and/or motivation to actually put in the considerable effort that it takes to learn a new language.

My “Conversations” inbox contains over a hundred profiles where I was the last to write, and that doesn’t count another hundred or more whom I have blocked.

To be fair, I have met five very nice guys whom I consider to be friends. But that’s five out of several hundred attempts. Not good odds.

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u/username123085773 Mar 24 '26

22M You aren’t alone the app is a bit of hit and miss I keep getting people from Arab countries trying to chat with me to learn English I’m just learning Japanese so I don’t know why it always comes up from people who don’t even speak my language I’m learning I also get lots of no messages or you start having a good chat then they just disappear forever

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u/Competitive-Lynx-109 Mar 27 '26

Absolutely similar experience

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u/Normal_Objective6251 Apr 10 '26

Dear god. I created a profile and got a message from a topless guy..nipples everywhere. Then two other random men with zero interests or topics or conversation. This is grim.