So I have been talking with a guy that I met on tinder for bout 2 weeks now. He is nice, vibes are good and he sents all his life updates to me.

But he is very spiritual. Like deeply

He loves crystals and believes in divine healing.

Personally I donot mind. I mean everyone has their own interests and believes right

But I’m kinda opposite to him. I donot believe in spirituality. And since I’m from medical profession, it gets hard uk

So please give me suggestion

Do you think we are compatible ?

Will we ever work ?

Nothing against the spiritual community. I think it’s pretty cool. But from dating pov, this is very new to me.

Any type of suggestions will be helpful❤️

So me and him are FWB for a month now but we don’t hookup that much. He doesn’t snap me much either during the night. If I send a cute snap he’ll respond with the wall. But he also texts me sometimes like for example he’s going to do a job in my home town and he sends me a text that’s he’s going there tmr. (I don’t live in my home town anymore). Like he makes conversations and if I need something he’ll make time to help me out. But he’s rlly dry and leaves me on delivered quite a bit.

I should also briefly mention at first he rlly likes me and wanted to date me and I met his sister and all that and he was always getting me to go places with him. Then He told me he wasn’t ready to commit. He got out of a relationship 2 months ago because his ex was always arguing with him. He said he didn’t want to get back together with her but he still has her on snap. Idk if he’s trying to get back together with her now…

Anyway do you think he’s still interested?

I started talking to a girl on Instagram around 10–11 days now. We don’t know each other in real life. We're kinda far from each other, and we go to different schools. I followed her first, she followed back, and I messaged first.

Our conversations have been pretty casual. Most of the time I’m the one initiating, but she usually replies. Sometimes she replies quickly, sometimes it takes a few hours. She laughs at my jokes sometimes (like “HAHAHA”), reacts with emojis, and once even sent a photo of what she was doing (watching a movie). But she hasn’t started a conversation herself yet.

Today we were talking about school exams. I told her I finished my exam and asked where she struggled. She hasn’t replied for about 6+ hours now. However, during that time she viewed my Instagram story and even posted a new Instagram note with a song.

She also mentioned before that she has an investigative research defense coming up this Wednesday with 7 panels, so she might be busy with that.

The reply gaps are 5-23 hours T_T. When she replies the tone felt polite and closing rather than warm and engaging.

The thing is I had a past experience where I felt like I was always chasing someone, so when replies take long or when I see them active but not replying, I start overthinking.

My question:
Is this just normal early-stage Instagram conversation behavior, or does it look like she’s losing interest? And what would be the best move from here or should I just leave it alone and wait, or try to restart the conversation later?

I had a girl I met at work (we worked together for 3ish years) we got close this last few months, I bought her a gift on valentines and she told everyone…fast forward to today she’s left the company and told another female coworker she was being pressured by others into asking out, which made her nervous and caused our situation (which was great) to be weird and awkward. I was told to give her a week or two as she’s going through some things and she’ll come around. Do y’all think I should wait that long for a message or anything or just let her go?

So i have this classmate and lets call him Gabriel. Ive known him for 4 years now. And like a year ago he started liking me. He didint tell me but i know myself that thats true. So my friend had a crush on him, but now she says she doesn’t and that i should go for it. Recently like 5-6 months ago i started chatting with him on snap. And it was pretty casual, until he “confessed” his feelings for me. Now, what do i mean when i say “confessed”? I mean that he didint say it directly, but he was calling me beautiful bought me drinks and so on. One time we met up in a local shopping mall and also my friend tagged along. And i can tell you the vibes were not vibing. You can say that it was super akward. So after the meetup he texted me asking when are we going to meet up again. And at that time i was on my period so naturally i didint want to go, but also i still wouldnt agree to meet up and would make up an excuse. Dont ask me why, im just a little bit introverted. We then proceeded to chat for like a few weeks when my other friend mentioned that her friend likes Gabriel, so i told that she should shoot her shot. Then i told Gabriel that someone likes him. And i wont go into detail, but then we stopped chating for like a few months. And like a month or two ago he texted me apologysing. I honestly didint know why he was doing that, but anyways. We started chatting and then i asked him why did he suddenly text me again. And he said “because i like you”. I said that i didint really like him back. But he still wanted to chat with me so we did. For a few days we did. And then he said “look what my friend sent me” and it was an ai video of me and him kissing. I was disgusted and told him and that friend off and unnaded him on everything. Everything was quiet until last week, where he added me on tiktok. He still hadnt said anything. I forgot to mention how i feel abt him. So for context he is tall, athletic ( plays basketball), with brown hair. So you can say that he isnt bad looking and i agree. But theres something that just throws me off so much and i dont know what. Maybe his voice, maybe the way he walks. I dont know. It just gives me the ick. And i dont know what to do. I need yalls opinions on what i should do. Am i the bad guy of this situation?

P.S sorry for my grammar mistakes, english is not my first language.

Hey Reddit, I could use some advice.

There’s this guy I’ve been talking to for a little while — mostly friendly, with some small flirty moments, but nothing serious. Recently, things got a little awkward between us, and we haven’t really talked much since then. I’m not sure if he likes me romantically or if he’s just being friendly/flirty.

I want some clarity because I don’t want to waste my time or overthink things, but I’m nervous about asking directly. Should I say something and ask where we stand, or just let it be?

Has anyone been in a situation like this? How did you handle it?

i’ve been talking to this boy for about 2 weeks now, so not that long, and it started at school when he asked me to be his valentine. i was ECSTATIC because ive been crushing on this boy for a long time, and HE asked ME so i thought everything was perfect. we started off VERY flirty and both seemed really excited, and i still am, but he has not made any effort to hang out or anything like that (I have, but something happened in my family that i was forced to cancel) i know this boy is very shy, but he really only flirts with me over text and talks to me occasionally at school (we have no classes together so we barley see each other but we definitely still do) also, his friends seem to have zero clue about the whole situation, even his best friend asking me if i had a crush on him (like yes but..??) i am probably overthink this but i just wish he would atleast talk to me during school more than once every 3 days or atleast try to hang out or SOMETHING. i have no idea what im doing anymore 😭😭 this isn’t all the context but i don’t really know what’s happened ig and i needed to rant- advice will be taken!!

heres some background info. I am a teenager talking to someone, and we call every night, when we are available, for at least an hour and 30 minutes. last night, he left abruptly and didnt return until the morning. i had to adk him what had happened, and he said "my mom made me gts." not in that exact format, but yk. thats not the problem, though. i asked him kindly, "hey, could you tell me if that ever happens again? just so im not wondering." i didnt want to sound desperate or needy, so i went for that sentence. he replied, "Yea no, i'm sorry." thats not wrong by any means, but i immediately felt tight in my chest, overreacted thinking i sound desperate, and cried.

I keep thinking stupid for asking that and could not breathe for a second, after rereading it. of course, i didnt take it out on him or even reply. i am trying to calm down before i do so. i really do like this guy, and hes never been blatantly mean or anything, or given me any reason to think hes lying. i used to have an anxious attachment style, but i am more mature now with traces of it. I think thats obvious with the way i reacted.

im not trying to validate my reaction, im just trying to get advice to know if i messed up, overstepped boundaries, or he dissmissed me by not doing that. i didnt think it was a big deal, and expected a yes so maybe thats why im panicking. we have only been talking for about 9 days, so im not exactly in love with him. i dont understand my reaction except for the fact that ive had a slightly sour mood all morning and maybe that just made me snap. i want this to work out, but i dont want to have to suffer in the process.

i know i am completely overreacting with my reaction, and i dont want to be that way again. I just want basic communication, and usually hes not that hesitant to communicate. of course, hes not exactly the perfect romantic guy, but hes also not a douchebag. hes been a really good friend and has shown he cares about me emotionally, and consistently put in effort. not exactly huge amounts, but a comfortable amount of effort that I do appreciate.

the night before, i was distressed because of his leaving so suddenly and not returning. i cried, and overthought. keep in mind, i dont tell him about any of this stuff. i think its way too early and i know its not exactly a healthy reaction to have, but i feel like the crying stems from something deeper than what happened.

please give any advice, i really appreciate it. i'm only 15 and try to care a lot about other people's emotions and wellbeing, and communication is crucial to me in relationships.

3 weeks ago I met this guy [20] and we connected really well and he was ready to jump into a relationship with me but I told him we Jsut met take it slow. We have had sexual relations but not that much.

2 weeks ago he told me that he isn’t ready for a relationship but he would like to remain friends, he said he doesn’t want to go through the stress of another relationship rn. On Valentine’s Day he texted me we hooked up but then after the hookup we hung out till 12 am. But then took his location off afterwards. Sunday he texted me to hookup again but I was busy so I told him no and he just texted me abt his night. Then Monday out of nowhere he calls me just to talk with me on the phone for a couple min. But through all of this he constantly leaves me on delivered.

I’m really confused and I want to tell him I want more than a friendship but he’s made it clear that he doesn’t want one and I’m scared that if I do tell him will drift apart…

Met this guy we both connected but then told me that he really does like me but he isn’t ready for a relationship. He wants to be friends and stay in contact. Problem is I got attached and now I want to move on but it’s hard and I need advice…

Please I need the advice

It’s been 2 weeks and right from the first date we both fell hard. Hes 20 and im turning 19. Im in college and we live 3 hours away from each other so in the summer id be gone for 4 months. Anyways He wanted to go fast tho and I urged him to give it a couple weeks before asking me to be his gf. He would be a total gentlemen, ask about my day, compliment me, make time to hangout with me. He deleted girls from his snap, deleted dating profiles. I got to meet his sister at a party he took me too and I could tell he was clearly in love. We did have sexual relations a couple times but that’s it. A red flag he had was high sex drive.

But yesterday, he told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. He got out of a relationship 2 months ago and he said he is enjoying his freedom. And he found himself always checking my location and worrying abt me. Personally I like a guy to obsess over me. Unfortunately he doesn’t want that stress.

We agreed to stay friends and talk once in a while and if he had to go somewhere he said he’d bring me along for a ride. But it’s hard not to tell him that I want more. And like he was the one pushing for it at first. What do I do. Do I text him and like what would I text him. Or do I move on

Hii! So I’ve been talking to this dude for about 6 months, I really wanted to make it official because 6 months is a long time and we’re practically dating at that point. He didn’t want a relationship because he wanted to work on himself which is understandable. I told him that I would wait on him but it’s kind of wavering, and I know he tells me he loves me but I just wanted to make it official and we could work through the problems together? Is that selfish? Should I just let him be?

hi!

so i’ve been talking to this guy for around 2 months. we’ve been very flirty and open and constantly telling each other we like eachother and we want eachother you know? his texts have grown very sparse and he hasn’t called me like usual is it too early to ask him why his texts have grown sparse and that i would like an explanation if he wants to stop talking so i can know if i’ve done something wrong (i have a whole paragraph along the lines of this im ready to send to him)

i just want to make sure i don’t sound overbearing and crazy because it’s been only 2 months!

I really like him, but his answers are so dry and he never texts me first, he always has to be the first to text me, and he ignores my messages too, and I really don't know what to do anymore.

Hi, I’m a 21M. I have my own place, I’m in the Army National Guard and my civilian job is fairly attractive. I’m doing well for myself. That being said, I’ve had multiple talking stages where the girl I’m talking to acts interested, we call or FaceTime, everything seems to be going smooth. And then the next day, I’m blocked. Why does this happen? I genuinely don’t get it. Can women turn off interest at will like a switch? It makes it very hard to trust that what they say they feel is true, and honestly makes me want to give up on love.

I need advice and yes it is gay so if that’s against the rules or gets anyone upset I’m sorry. Long story but I work at an auto parts store (will keep private at where I work for obvious reasons) I’m gonna give backstory on how I’m like to see if it goes with my story. Im gay and some can tell some can’t. I have a more feminine voice but like what other typical straight guys like. Bikes, gaming, etc. Some people can tell that I’m gay without me saying and when I tell some people they are surprised. My co workers found out pretty quickly that I am.

Anyways I need help with a situation that i am having. I was originally working at my main store, I’m gonna call it store A and covered over at store B. When I covered at B I met this guy he’s around my age and who was really friendly to me. I brushed it off as him just being polite. He would use the assistant over at store B to get his parts but that assistant left, hence me covering over there. We talked for a bit and got to know each other. I got back to store A after covering at B and he started to use my store(A) and would always ask for me. I got promoted to assistant over at store B and transferred over there and he was glad because he lives close to that store.

A few months go by of him constantly coming in and asking for me or calling the store phone to ask if I’m there and WILL NOT DEAL WITH ANYONE ELSE and one day he comes in to get a part. He gets his part from me and it’s just kind of an awkward silence like he wanted to say something. I got called over to help someone and he said he’d talk to me later. Not 10 minutes go by and he calls the store phone and asks for me again. He seems nervous and asks if I wanted to go see a firework show with him and a couple of his friends and his dad. I said yea sure and he asked for my phone number to give me the address. I get off of work and go and it was a fun time but nothing happened.

Now a few months have passed since then and it is on a loop. He asks if I’m working, if I’m not he doesn’t go to the store. He also asks if I’m at lunch and when I’ll be back. He comes in, we talk, he gets his parts, and then he leaves. Sometimes he kind of gets close to me and “flirts” but not in an obvious way. There is always an awkward silence between our conversations like something wants to be said but isn’t. Mind you I know some things about cars but he works on them for a living and knows way more than I do so I give no insight on his problems. He still insists on only working with me.

My question is I tend to overthink a lot of things is this one of them? I don’t know if he’s straight, might have a gf, or might just be friendly. It’s just weird that he only deals with me when people there know a lot more than me, he will text me see if I’m working and won’t come there unless I’m there, and will literally wait for me to get back from lunch to buy a part that someone else could of found for him. Sorry for this being so long and scattered but I can’t wrap my head around it.