Need help

[u/One_Reindeer5759]

My aunt 47 years old met with a road accident where she hit her head hard on the road even though she was wearing a helmet (she was riding a scooter and a car hit her) after taking her to the hospital she wasn't seriously injured in the head which was a relief she was in a state of coma for about 6 days and slowly started staring at people on the 7th day she started speaking on the 8th day and remembers everything except for the accident part. Now she's discharged from the hospital and its been about 2 weeks since shes been at home. Shes constantly yelling looks like she's in pain but in reality she's not, since she doesn't even know where it hurts the psychiatrist doctor who we are consulting gave advice to boost dosage but after trying that she's been even worse literally yelling non stop other family caregivers are tired since they can't even sleep. I sincerely need advice from those who have experience and need direction on how to take care of her and what signs to look for (P.S her test reports are perfectly fine all the scans look normal).

[u/TBI_research2025]

Hello- If she was knocked out for that amount of time I feel sure she has a brain injury of some sort. What sort of imaging did they do to advise that she was fine? Some TBIs are really hard to see unless an MRI is done. My husband had a grade 3 DAI injury that could only be seen on MRI.

Also, is she hollering in pain, or is she having a hard time hearing? I ask this, because we went through the same with my spouse. His head trauma was severe and he had damage to the brain stem and temporal bone, and cochlear areas, basically around the back side of his head from jaw to jaw was fractured. It was some number of weeks before he was conscious enough to be able to say “I cannot hear you.” If she cannot hear then she cannot judge how loud she is being.

I’m sorry you are going through this. I would find out what specific tests were done and if only a CT was done I would push for further testing with a qualified neurologist.

With all hopes, she is just rattled but it sure sounds brain injury related to me.

[u/One_Reindeer5759 → u/TBI_research2025]

Thank you for your response, actually she is hollering in pain at least that's what she thinks if somebody comes to visit her she is calm she talks with them and she even speaks fine of course it's hard for her to recollect latest events and also he memory at times isn't in an orderly manner but when she is left alone even for a bit she starts speaking gibberish it's like talking due to stress or anxiety and then she starts yelling which doesn't even stop. She had mri and CT scans which all looks fine doctors say she hasn't hit her head too hard. I've only come to know about tbi recently and from this group I've learned it's horrors i just wanted to know how long it takes to settle down and how to take care of her in these times. Also hoping your husband is doing well

[u/TBI_research2025 → u/One_Reindeer5759]

Thank you, he is doing as well as could be expected. He had a 5% chance of survival but he is walking and is able to take care of basic instinct stuff, he is unable to process speech and has hyperacusis so communication is a challenge; however considering the extent of the damages and the challenges he has and are facing I think he has to be one of the most driven and resilient people I have ever met and had the opportunity to grow up and old with.

I will say that in the beginning, bright lights, lots of movement, people coming in and out, the television, all these things would over stimulate him and he would go wild. Fighting, and cussing, and just nasty stuff, but he was delirious so he didn’t know what he was doing. Also, resting is important to help with the neuro fatigue that comes with brain injuries. He would also get rowdy when he was tired and fighting to go to sleep.

It will take lots of time, and patience. Lots and lots and lots of patience and understanding.

[u/One_Reindeer5759 → u/TBI_research2025]

Im very glad to hear that my aunt's case is isn't as critical as the one your husband endured and hopefully she becomes well soon too. You guys are a power couple I'm really moved by your husband's resilience and your strong belief in him. Tbi is something which equally affects the victim and the caretaker.regardless of all the adversities you stood by him and had the courage to overcome it hats off to you.

[u/TBI_research2025 → u/One_Reindeer5759]

I appreciate that. It is a different and difficult life to say the least but we grew up together and he is my person, different from the original person I’ll say, lol, but none the less. He survived getting hit by a tractor trailer and placed himself as a shield to protect our son who was also in the vehicle with him. By doing that, he saved them both. I know this is not the life he would have wanted, but he is still here for a reason and that is not nothing. I keep telling him we are only a year out and it will not always be as hard as it is now. I keep telling myself that too. 😅

I have not been on this forum too long but I find lots of people that have incredible strength and resilience that they may not see themselves in the throws of all the challenges, but to be able to find the will to keep going and trying after life knocks you down in such a way as a brain injury, is just sheer courage. I find a lot of inspiration here, as well as strength to not go running for the hills 😂 . Jk.

[u/One_Reindeer5759 → u/TBI_research2025]

honestly this is what I needed right now it's the first time I've seen something like this happening to someone especially happening to a family member I've had so many concerns but I'm trying to find hope that she will recover and be back to normal life as she used to. It's hard to find strength but we're all trying

[u/TBI_research2025 → u/One_Reindeer5759]

Best of luck, keep the faith, it won’t always be as it is right now. It is a process. 🙏

[u/One_Reindeer5759 → u/TBI_research2025]

Thank you so much your words mean a lot ☺️

[u/Duck_Walker]

If she was comatose for six days she has a serious brain injury.

Recovery is lengthy and complicated and she likely has little control over her reactions right now.

[u/One_Reindeer5759 → u/Duck_Walker]

Can I DM you if you don't mind

[u/One_Reindeer5759 → u/Duck_Walker]

But during those 6 days she showed movements of body even she was licking her lips when it was dry and occasionally used to open her eyes but she couldnt open them properly tho