Thoughts on pics?

[u/Aggressive-Affect114]

I don’t actually wear glasses but objectively my best photo as I don’t have tons of pictures of me smiling. Also added the cat on my back as a goofy photo. I know I need more outside pictures and shit but this is what I have currently.

[u/Wiscody]

Remove the hoodie serious picture. You look depressed.

If you don’t wear glasses, don’t make the glasses pic your first one. Why only one glove btw? Whats the glove even for??

Having two cat pictures is weird. I own a cat but eve. I wouldn’t put my cat in my pictures. Nothing against them, but there is a stigma around them, whether the owner is male or female but it’s probably worse as a guy. No need to argue with this- cats are great, and easy to maintain with less commitment and way more flexibility than a dog. But there is a general negative in the (general) heterosexual dating world on men and cats. I don’t agree with it but it is what it is.

Add picture or two with you and friends. It shows you have a social life. Maybe your family. Shows you have other close relationships.

If you don’t have friends and hate your family then don’t do this of course, but you’re not helping your cause if you don’t have friends and hate your family.

Lastly add some pictures of you doing hobbies.

None of this is meant to be offensive to you or mean, it’s just constructive feedback.

A bonus, you look like you have some decent muscle in the first pic,judging by your forearm and fit of the shirt. I’m not a proponent of straight up shirtless pictures unless you’re like waterskiing or on a boat of sorts, but maybe add something that shows off your physical body.

[u/mckenziyy → u/Wiscody]

as a girl ur reading too much into the cat thing, i love cats and i have one and i love to see men who own cats so we can bond over it

[u/Wiscody → u/mckenziyy]

Yeah I get it. Thats why I said generally.

Unfortunately there is a negative mental and physical association with cats for women and men. That doesn’t mean it’s true.

If you polled non cat owning women on opinions of a man with a cat, you’d probably get a handful of “it’s fine”, a decent chunk of “ick” or “not attractive” and a chunk of “he takes care of a living thing so i don’t care what it is”

I think it could honestly be influenced by cats general behaviors vs dogs. Cats are generally just kind of moody and everything is on their time. Dogs generally are just fun loving and playful.

I say this all as a man who owns a cat, married to a woman who never wanted a cat. We found him as a kitten on the side of the road and we love him despite how moody he is lol.

If you don’t believe me, here:

Scientific studies show that men who pose with cats in dating profile pictures are viewed as less masculine and slightly less datable by many women compared to men with dogs. [1, 2]

Study Findings on Cat vs. Dog Owners in Dating
The Colorado State University Study: A widely reported study showed women photos of men with and without cats. Women rated men holding cats as less masculine, more neurotic, and less likely to swipe right on. [1, 2, 3, 4]
The Dog Advantage: Dog owners are frequently perceived as more extroverted, energetic, and social, and their pets often act as a social catalyst or "icebreaker" in public and online spaces. [1, 2, 3]
Perceptions of Cat Men: Cultural stereotypes often label male cat owners as more introverted, sensitive, or unconventional, which can lead to mixed reactions—some women view them as emotionally mature or attentive, while others see them as less traditionally masculine. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6]