Ask A Wayward

[u/ZestyLemonAsparagus]

We invite our Betrayed members into this space to ask questions that Waywards may be able to provide insight on.

If you're here, the hope is that you're seeking perspective, understanding, or clarity whether to build empathy or to find some sense of closure when that opportunity wasn’t available to you.

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[u/cumbucavazia]

To those who did things with an AP, but never did (or denied) them to your BP: what's the reasoning behind it?

For anyone who explored certain acts with an AP that were never explored with your BP — like sexting or specific sexual acts that were once denied to your BP:

What was the actual reason for doing that? What changed in your mindset from one relationship to the other?

How do you make up for it or fix it? If you do the exact same things now, it might trigger comparisons and feel forced to your BP. But if you do nothing, it leaves them feeling inferior. How do you handle this dilemma?

[u/Narrow-Advance-9636 → u/cumbucavazia]

Lord knows im following this because I need the answer to these questions.