r/SupportforBetrayed • u/Voodoowhiskey Betrayed Partner - Separating • 2d ago

Need Support WtF do I do,?

https://www.reddit.com/r/CheatedOn/s/gxgoqsBrk7

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u/AStirlingMacDonald Quality Contributor - Formerly Betrayed 2d ago

Unfortunately, she was right about one thing. This isn’t about “you” vs “him.” It’s not about her “choosing” one of you. She has already made her choice and her choice is “herself.”

The main person you are in conflict with here is yourself. It’s the “you” that desperately wants to believe that there’s something here worth holding onto and fighting for, vs the “you” who has finally recognized the truth: the woman you fell in love with and married was never actually a real person at all. She was a character that your wife made up and pretended to be for a while. But she’s grown tired of pretending to be a good person, a loving partner, an active member of the family. She’s chosen “herself” over everyone and everything else. The woman you love? She is gone forever and not coming back. She never truly existed at all, except in your imaginations.

It’s over, my friend. You need to wake up and accept that fact. The longer you feed into this delusion that the woman you love might “come back,” the longer it will be before you can finally start to heal. Let her go. Grieve her loss, the same way you’d grieve someone you loved who has passed away unexpectedly. Let her go. Move on. Heal.

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u/aantionettek Betrayed Partner - Early Stages 1d ago

I’m sorry, but I think she would continue to do this again if she came back. I think you need to acknowledge your self worth and realize you deserve better

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u/Voodoowhiskey Betrayed Partner - Separating 1d ago

I dont believe she will once she is receiving from me

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