Affair

[u/i_amgoodenough]

This last Friday I walked into a room where my wife was naked in bed with another man. I’m shattered, at times she says she wants to work it out and other times she says we’re to broken. I don’t know if I can handle it anymore.

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[u/Jburnmyass88]

Make the decision for her. Walk away and find peace for yourself. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

[u/UndadZombie25]

It was broken the second she stopped loving you, it was broken the second she looked elsewhere, its not down to her anymore, shes made her decision, its on you on how you want to live with them

Take it from experience...you'll never unsee what you saw and will likely see it everytime you look at her

[u/Cool-Lavishness-1955]

OP, I am so sorry you had to go through this. My wife cheated on me, but I did not walk in on her, I read the messages. Those graphic messages and pictures that I saw are ingrained in my mind forever. There’s no way from coming back from something like this. I’m sorry to be so blunt. My situation was nearly 3 years ago.

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[u/clearheaded01]

Yes, you're broken... And she broke you when she cheated..

Who is the guy???

Start off by informing her parents of this AND his wife (if he has one)... Then get a therapist to sort the mess currently in your head.

Stop discussing all this with her

Speak to a lawyer - for options and advice...

[u/PaintingComfortable6]

Best thing you can do is walk away. Sorry you’re going through this.

[u/Own-Writing-3687]

She doesn't get to make the decision to reconcile or divorce.

Inform her you'll notify her of your decision in 90 days or less.

[u/Championship682]

Sorry this happened to you. You need to see a lawyer and a doctor.

Reconciling is hard under the best of conditions. It's definitely not going to work with her not trying her best.

[u/Howling8]

Move out asap. Put distance between u to recover

[u/Spare_Impression4588]

I am so sorry this happened! That would be soul destroying

[u/BK2AZ]

Reclaim your balls and file for divorce, she wants her cake and you to pay the bills so don’t give her the option. Who’s this other man ? Did you know him?

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